RF-I'm very sorry about your loss. I hope you do read this when you come back and realize you have a blogging team of supporters here. My prayers go out to you and your family during your time of need.

Sage-great idea.  I wanted to write something on his blog but granted his wishes. Thanks again sage, great idea.

I am very sorry for your loss. Please know you have friends who cry with you. You are not alone.

Thinking of you. My condolences.

RF, I'm so sorry. You and your family will be in my prayers.

My deepest condolences to you.

My deepest condolences as well. 

You were Blessed to have been married to the Best Person You Know.  I'm deeply sorry for your loss.  You are in my prayers.

My deepest condolences to you. God blessed you with the Best Person You Know.

Sage- Excellent. As always.

So very sorry for your loss. Another angel entered Heaven.

Very sad.

I know how much you'll miss her and I remember how highly you always spoke of her.   If you can, take comfort in the friends you've made here on the blog and at the meetups who are with you now.    I'm very sorry I wasn't at the one she attended as I'd loved to have met her.  My heart and thoughts are with you.

Random, so sorry for your loss. Take this day, and every day to remember the good times, the laughter, the wonder of finding each other and falling in love... You will survive, feel free to share your pain with others, those close to you, as you need them as much as they may need you to help them.

Best person in the world indeed.  I'll be giving mine an extra hug.  I am so sorry and so glad I had the opportunity to meet her.

I am sorry for your loss Random, my condolences.   

Random, even though we have had our differences on these blogs, I am putting them aside to join in the sympathies for your loss. May your beloved rest in peace.

Random, I am so sorry to hear this.  She was a treasure and I'm sure she'll be missed.  She is no longer in pain or trapped in a body that couldn't match her spirit.   If there is anything we can do for you,...don't hesitate to give me a call.  You have friends here.

Random we are buddies on the net        Please believe       I'm so SAD for you

Ron

ditto Ron

Very shocked to see this news. I am very grateful to have met the love of your life twice, at our little blogger get togethers. Peace and comfort to you and your family.

My prayers and good thoughts are with you, my man. Take care.

So sorry.  Glad that you were some place having fun together.  My better half and I both send our condolences.

+May her memory be eternal+ 

 RF- my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry about your loss, you always spoke so highly of her, i wish i could have met her. you and your family will be in my prayers.

Thank you Sage for posting this.

Sorry for your loss, RF. I hope that you will always find comfort in the memories of the good times you had with her.

Deepest condolences and heartfelt sympathies, Random. Here if you need me.

Random

I haven't been on the blogs for several days either (for a variety of reasons).  So I missed your post.

I'm so sorry.  Please know during the dark days ahead that you'll be in everyone's thoughts.  

Random--I have pretty much given up blogging, but when my mom called and told me about your losing your wife, my heart sank for you.  You know we all respect you and care about you (even those of us who give you a hard time sometimes.)  Please take care.

I offer my deepest sympathies towards you and your family throughout this difficult time of loss. 

RF, my heart aches for you.  I pray that you'll find some comfort in the support of family and friends, and the memories of your love for each other.

Music, when soft voices die,
Vibrates in the memory,
Odours, when sweet violets sicken,
Live within the sense they quicken.

Rose leaves, when the rose is dead,
Are heaped for the beloved's bed;
And so thy thoughts, when thou art gone,
Love itself shall slumber on.

- Percy Bysshe Shelley

This is the poem I read at my brother's funeral.

We all mourn with you, my friend.
 

You and yours are are in our thoughts.  I'm glad that I got to meet her.  Take care of yourself.

Random is one of my favorite bloggers. He has always been nice to me.

Hugs for RandomFactor! Always loved that random name you gave to your cat. I hope you're OK and will be OK, Random.

So sorry Random,,, My thoughts are with you...

My sympthay and well wishes go out to you, Random. In celebration of the Best Person You Know.

RF, you said it very well on your blog, which I just read. Sorry for your loss.

Courage, RF.

What words of comfort are there for a grieving atheist? I found a little in this (below) when I lost someone dear to me.

Perhaps the end of Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass:

“I bequeath myself to the dirt to grow from the grass I love.
If you want me again look for me under your bootsoles.
You will hardly know who I am or what I mean,
But I shall be good health to you nevertheless,
And filter and fibre your blood.”

Or maybe Poe’s (the singer, not the writer) tearful Fly Away:

“It makes sense that it should feel just this way
that you slowly fade and yet still remain.
As if to say: Everything matters in such an invisible way,
as if to say: It’s O.K.
Fly…away.”

Then again, even those are hints at some life beyond death. Perhaps, then, the old unfunny joke about the tombstone of an atheist:

“All dressed up and nowhere to go.”

Thanks, folks.  Just popping in for a second.

Know what the worst word in the English language is?

"Never."

My sympathies also - you were both blessed to have had such a great love.

So true, RF. That's the word that has made a liar out of me the most. I'll never use it again.

She rides the wind to the other side on a steed of snowy white

The loves she knew back there on earth are fading out of sight.

She’ll miss the ones she left behind her heart is filled with sorrow

But now she can see through her tears all of her tomorrows.

She loves us well and with her Soul she keeps us safe and warm

Her angels wings will brush our cheeks and we will know..........

She’s home.

random, I just saw your blog, and I feel so terribly for you! Take care...I wish you peace and sweet memories and dreams of your love.

Thanks, folks.  Just popping in for a second.

Know what the worst word in the English language is?

"Never."

*hugs*  I would love to say "I know exactly how you feel.", but the truth is that none of us do.  I know what it's like to lose a baby or face the death of a child, but I imagine losing a spouse is an entirely different experience.  I know you loved her very much - it was evidence in the respect and care you gave her.  What stands out most in my mind is that time we met at the park and I watched you lovingly whisper or help her hear what we were talking about.  It seems such a small thing, but it was the sort of thing that proves how deep love runs. She was loved.  Perhaps that's all any of us can really wish for - that we were loved completely and unconditionally.  You gave her that, my friend.   

RF:  When my mother passed away (at the age of 48), my dad was altogether unlike himself.  He was a person my sisters and I did not know.  Half of him was gone.  That's why.  We got to know him that way.  He did manage to survive -- to the age of 87.  All those years without my mother.  He remarried, but my mother was always there, a part of him.  I wonder what they talk about, in Heaven. 

Thank you, Sage, for this forum. 

I am now closing this thread. I am so happy that not one single comment had to be deleted~, it renews my faith in my fellow posters. Bless be all who left some thoughts here for RF.

Bless be all whose spirits did not allow them to comment.