http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674 I will ask all of my fellow bloggers for a bit of advice. I do not like my job. I love the people I work with but I feel different about the people I work for. I have several reasons why I want to move on....here they go I make at least 25% less than my co workers I have children that are being raised by daycares and my teenagers are raising themselves I was thinking if my children were kidnapped today I could not tell the authorities what my children were wearing...because my husband and I leave home at 5 am I am under a&nbsp;lot of stress&nbsp;because I feel I am not being the mother I need to be I feel when you have teenagers you have to keep both eyes on them at all times My family is more important than my career With that being said.......I was thinking of opening some type of small store. Maybe even a small thrift shop. I could employee children that need help (gang members, young moms, poor children) and teach them customer service, cash handling, organization, and much more. I could set my own hours and help others at the same time. What do you guys think? I will this pass this by &nbsp;you guys before I sit my husband down this evening and tell him my plans. ... Should you stay at a job you dislike? Should I be afraid to make this move or should I say screw this I am quiting and move on? I will ask all of my fellow bloggers for a bit of advice. I do not like my job. I love the people I work with but I feel different about the people I work for. I have several reasons why I want to move on....here they go I make at least 25% less than my co workers I have children that are being raised by daycares and my teenagers are raising themselves I was thinking if my children were kidnapped today I could not tell the authorities what my children were wearing...because my husband and I leave home at 5 am I am under a&nbsp;lot of stress&nbsp;because I feel I am not being the mother I need to be I feel when you have teenagers you have to keep both eyes on them at all times My family is more important than my career With that being said.......I was thinking of opening some type of small store. Maybe even a small thrift shop. I could employee children that need help (gang members, young moms, poor children) and teach them customer service, cash handling, organization, and much more. I could set my own hours and help others at the same time. What do you guys think? I will this pass this by &nbsp;you guys before I sit my husband down this evening and tell him my plans. ... Should you stay at a job you dislike? Should I be afraid to make this move or should I say screw this I am quiting and move on? en-us <p>My wife quit working outside the home 4 years ago. She didn't love her job, but she didn't hate it. She and I decided she needed to be a mom first. The care and nurturing of our two boys is the most important thing to us and having a mom available all the time seemed like a no-brainer. We took a hit to our income, but our family is far better off for doing it.</p> <p>Starting a business, you may find out you are even more busy than you are now.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269899 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269899 <p>My wife quit working outside the home 4 years ago. She didn't love her job, but she didn't hate it. She and I decided she needed to be a mom first. The care and nurturing of our two boys is the most important thing to us and having a mom available all the time seemed like a no-brainer. We took a hit to our income, but our family is far better off for doing it.</p> <p>Starting a business, you may find out you are even more busy than you are now.</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Try it.For myself,at least,I do not want a huge list of &quot;I wish&nbsp;I had&quot; laying about.</span>&nbsp;<span style="font-size: small">I had a &quot;good job&quot; that&nbsp;I left, for much the same reasons you list(kids) to start my own business. It was scary leaving behind &quot;my paycheck&quot; but I never regretted the choice. Timec~ I do not know you~ but&nbsp;I sense a survivor in you,someone who could pull off just what you desire. Go for it!</span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269903 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269903 <p><span style="font-size: small">Try it.For myself,at least,I do not want a huge list of &quot;I wish&nbsp;I had&quot; laying about.</span>&nbsp;<span style="font-size: small">I had a &quot;good job&quot; that&nbsp;I left, for much the same reasons you list(kids) to start my own business. It was scary leaving behind &quot;my paycheck&quot; but I never regretted the choice. Timec~ I do not know you~ but&nbsp;I sense a survivor in you,someone who could pull off just what you desire. Go for it!</span></p> <p>This is a really bad time to be leaving a job.&nbsp; Unless you have something lined up first, I'd tough it out.&nbsp; Much of your stress is self-imposed--you don't *HAVE* to be perfect, just better than average.&nbsp;</p> <p>If you do decide to quit, you might try this:&nbsp; re-apply for your old job and tell them you want 25 percent more than you're getting now.&nbsp; You'd be likely the best candidate.&nbsp; (This is if others are getting more for the same or comparable work.)&nbsp; If you're leaving anyway, give it a try.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269905 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269905 <p>This is a really bad time to be leaving a job.&nbsp; Unless you have something lined up first, I'd tough it out.&nbsp; Much of your stress is self-imposed--you don't *HAVE* to be perfect, just better than average.&nbsp;</p> <p>If you do decide to quit, you might try this:&nbsp; re-apply for your old job and tell them you want 25 percent more than you're getting now.&nbsp; You'd be likely the best candidate.&nbsp; (This is if others are getting more for the same or comparable work.)&nbsp; If you're leaving anyway, give it a try.</p> <p>Timec, I know you and I disagree about a lot of things but on this one I have to agree about your children.  They only have one childhood and you don't get to go back and redo it or recapture the moments.  Can you do something like work for a school where your hours coincide with the kids school time?</p> <p>My grandkids have a new baby and both are teachers.  Both will continue to work.   I'd love to see one of them stay home the first year anyway even if it means tightening the belt ...a lot.  I know this sounds a little cold but I wonder why people decide to have children if someone else is going to raise them.  Makes no sense to me.   So much is missed.</p> <p>Bear in mind, I'm talking about when it's financially feasable.  I know a lot of moms or even single dads have no choice but when there IS  a choice...be with the kids.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269911 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269911 <p>Timec, I know you and I disagree about a lot of things but on this one I have to agree about your children.  They only have one childhood and you don't get to go back and redo it or recapture the moments.  Can you do something like work for a school where your hours coincide with the kids school time?</p> <p>My grandkids have a new baby and both are teachers.  Both will continue to work.   I'd love to see one of them stay home the first year anyway even if it means tightening the belt ...a lot.  I know this sounds a little cold but I wonder why people decide to have children if someone else is going to raise them.  Makes no sense to me.   So much is missed.</p> <p>Bear in mind, I'm talking about when it's financially feasable.  I know a lot of moms or even single dads have no choice but when there IS  a choice...be with the kids.</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">My husband has a&nbsp;good job. Our house is paid for, my husband can handle our household bills....only thing&nbsp;that I will miss dearly is out of control shopping....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I need to&nbsp;be a&nbsp;mom before I am anything&nbsp;else.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269918 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269918 <p><span style="font-size: small">My husband has a&nbsp;good job. Our house is paid for, my husband can handle our household bills....only thing&nbsp;that I will miss dearly is out of control shopping....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I need to&nbsp;be a&nbsp;mom before I am anything&nbsp;else.&nbsp;</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>beyond the financial choices one has to make</p> <p>I still have yet to see a tombstone read :</p> <p><span style="font-size: x-large">BELOVED EMPLOYEE AND GREAT WORKER </span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269919 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269919 <p>beyond the financial choices one has to make</p> <p>I still have yet to see a tombstone read :</p> <p><span style="font-size: x-large">BELOVED EMPLOYEE AND GREAT WORKER </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">Nancy, </span></span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">I thought the job I have now was during school hours but after you get the job things always change. I need to stay late for this or that..I need to go early to meet so and so...that is how it works. </span></span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">I have a&nbsp;daughter that has asthma. I work in Bakersfield but I don't live here. I call&nbsp;my day care provider for everything.....Can you take my daughter her inhaler, my daughter forgot her permission slip can you please take it to the school, my son missed the bus can you please drop him off at the school.....I should not have to call a person everyday for this...It is my job ..they are&nbsp;my children. </span></span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269922 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269922 <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">Nancy, </span></span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">I thought the job I have now was during school hours but after you get the job things always change. I need to stay late for this or that..I need to go early to meet so and so...that is how it works. </span></span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small"><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS">I have a&nbsp;daughter that has asthma. I work in Bakersfield but I don't live here. I call&nbsp;my day care provider for everything.....Can you take my daughter her inhaler, my daughter forgot her permission slip can you please take it to the school, my son missed the bus can you please drop him off at the school.....I should not have to call a person everyday for this...It is my job ..they are&nbsp;my children. </span></span></p> <p>You do, what you need to do.</p> <p>Good Luck either way.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269926 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269926 <p>You do, what you need to do.</p> <p>Good Luck either way.</p> <p>Sometimes earning a little less  can give you much more. Although I really agree with Random's comment regarding lining up something before you vacate a current job, your situation sounds very different from most. In a lot of circumstances you can reach a level of diminishing returns  for your efforts. You may be there, and now need to find a different path.</p> <br /> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269930 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269930 <p>Sometimes earning a little less  can give you much more. Although I really agree with Random's comment regarding lining up something before you vacate a current job, your situation sounds very different from most. In a lot of circumstances you can reach a level of diminishing returns  for your efforts. You may be there, and now need to find a different path.</p> <br /> <p>Do not stay in a job you do not like. Period. You should be happy and family should come before employment. If you can do without the money, I say quit. However, I would suggest a part time job, 4 hours a day, just to get you out and make you feel like you are contributing something to the family (and small shopping sprees!). I would not start a new business, economy is too bad right now.</p> <p>Enjoy life, enjoy your family. Then you'll be at peace with your decisions. I hope your husband supports you 100%.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269931 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269931 <p>Do not stay in a job you do not like. Period. You should be happy and family should come before employment. If you can do without the money, I say quit. However, I would suggest a part time job, 4 hours a day, just to get you out and make you feel like you are contributing something to the family (and small shopping sprees!). I would not start a new business, economy is too bad right now.</p> <p>Enjoy life, enjoy your family. Then you'll be at peace with your decisions. I hope your husband supports you 100%.</p> &nbsp; You said' family is more important" The only strain you'll feel is your"out of control spending" So all I can say is go for it. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269937 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269937 &nbsp; You said' family is more important" The only strain you'll feel is your"out of control spending" So all I can say is go for it. <p>After I got back from a recent business trip to Alaska a month ago my wife told me she wanted to quit her job in order to stay home and raise our son and start a small daycare for some of our friends children. As much as a second income is important for most households these days, I had to support her in her decision. I think someone once told me that you can either be a good business man, or a good parent but not both. And if you look really deep into that statement it is true. If you feel you are lacking on the parent side, and you can survive without the extra income, then go for it. In our situation I decided to start pursuing some free lance graphic design jobs in order to make up for some of the income. As far as starting a small store, remember that as easy as it sounds, that its self will become a full time job as well.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269939 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269939 <p>After I got back from a recent business trip to Alaska a month ago my wife told me she wanted to quit her job in order to stay home and raise our son and start a small daycare for some of our friends children. As much as a second income is important for most households these days, I had to support her in her decision. I think someone once told me that you can either be a good business man, or a good parent but not both. And if you look really deep into that statement it is true. If you feel you are lacking on the parent side, and you can survive without the extra income, then go for it. In our situation I decided to start pursuing some free lance graphic design jobs in order to make up for some of the income. As far as starting a small store, remember that as easy as it sounds, that its self will become a full time job as well.</p> <p>If you don't like your job then look for another. Or, if you can afford it, be a stay-at-home mom. Not knowing your particular circumstances, it's easy for me to make suggestions. Sitting and talking with your husband before you make a decision is the wise thing to do. (And count your lucky stars that you have a spouse to talk to. Single moms don't have that sounding board.) As to starting a business--I don't mean to discourage you, but think that one over very carefully. That can be a commitment more demanding than marriage.</p> <p>I'm sure there are alot of us who would love to chuck the rut and try something else. Let us know how it goes, your experience may be helpful to others.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269943 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269943 <p>If you don't like your job then look for another. Or, if you can afford it, be a stay-at-home mom. Not knowing your particular circumstances, it's easy for me to make suggestions. Sitting and talking with your husband before you make a decision is the wise thing to do. (And count your lucky stars that you have a spouse to talk to. Single moms don't have that sounding board.) As to starting a business--I don't mean to discourage you, but think that one over very carefully. That can be a commitment more demanding than marriage.</p> <p>I'm sure there are alot of us who would love to chuck the rut and try something else. Let us know how it goes, your experience may be helpful to others.</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">&nbsp;My husband works. I tend house and kid. Love it that way! lol! Works great for all of us.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">My kids come first.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I'd personally rather be poor with awesome kids :0)</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269953 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269953 <p><span style="font-size: small">&nbsp;My husband works. I tend house and kid. Love it that way! lol! Works great for all of us.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">My kids come first.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I'd personally rather be poor with awesome kids :0)</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Thank you guys so much....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I am going to print this out and show my hubbie. I know he will say do whatever makes you happy. I just want to make sure I am doing the right thing before I take such a big step. I can always find another job....I will not be able to rewind my life if my children turn out to be thugs because mama was not&nbsp;home. </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">The thought of not being able to shop with my mom every weekend scares me.....oh well....can't have it both ways. Macy's&nbsp;will miss me dearly.......My husband and I joke about when we were flat&nbsp;broke we were happier because we had less stress and way less bills......those were the good ole days...The more you make the more you spend....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Cable Internet is pretty pricey...does this mean I will have to go back to dial up.......oh no what have I done...lol</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Thank you guys so much...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">thanks bako ......I hope he supports me as well. </span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269955 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269955 <p><span style="font-size: small">Thank you guys so much....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I am going to print this out and show my hubbie. I know he will say do whatever makes you happy. I just want to make sure I am doing the right thing before I take such a big step. I can always find another job....I will not be able to rewind my life if my children turn out to be thugs because mama was not&nbsp;home. </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">The thought of not being able to shop with my mom every weekend scares me.....oh well....can't have it both ways. Macy's&nbsp;will miss me dearly.......My husband and I joke about when we were flat&nbsp;broke we were happier because we had less stress and way less bills......those were the good ole days...The more you make the more you spend....</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Cable Internet is pretty pricey...does this mean I will have to go back to dial up.......oh no what have I done...lol</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Thank you guys so much...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">thanks bako ......I hope he supports me as well. </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Tchud....lol</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I would rather be poor with awesome kids too....thanks</span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269961 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269961 <p><span style="font-size: small">Tchud....lol</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I would rather be poor with awesome kids too....thanks</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I will wait on the business idea ....I have been selling name brand jeans on eBay your about 3 years...I will continue the eBay thing for spending money&nbsp;and I will stay at home and be a full-time mom..... I am going to actually drive my son to baseball games instead of meeting him there....I am so excited.</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269967 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269967 <p><span style="font-size: small">I will wait on the business idea ....I have been selling name brand jeans on eBay your about 3 years...I will continue the eBay thing for spending money&nbsp;and I will stay at home and be a full-time mom..... I am going to actually drive my son to baseball games instead of meeting him there....I am so excited.</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Timec..cheer up.&nbsp; There's alway the 99 Cent Store where you can get your &quot;fix&quot; and not spend much money.&nbsp; Oh, and the Goodwill out on Granite Falls and Coffee&nbsp;is really nice.&nbsp; LOL.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269981 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269981 <p>Timec..cheer up.&nbsp; There's alway the 99 Cent Store where you can get your &quot;fix&quot; and not spend much money.&nbsp; Oh, and the Goodwill out on Granite Falls and Coffee&nbsp;is really nice.&nbsp; LOL.</p> <p>timec, have you consulted your brothers on what it's like to be unemployed?</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269983 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269983 <p>timec, have you consulted your brothers on what it's like to be unemployed?</p> <p>I remember how exciting it was when we decided my wife would stay at home. The kids benefited, but so did the whole family. My wife feels greater rewards than she did at work. The house and its affairs are in much better shape. And the kids, even the older one, loved the idea of mommy being at home. It really builds greater bonds.</p> <p>Not to diminish the roles of working mothers. My mother was one. It's just most working mothers I know would rather be with their children. They just can't afford it.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269990 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269990 <p>I remember how exciting it was when we decided my wife would stay at home. The kids benefited, but so did the whole family. My wife feels greater rewards than she did at work. The house and its affairs are in much better shape. And the kids, even the older one, loved the idea of mommy being at home. It really builds greater bonds.</p> <p>Not to diminish the roles of working mothers. My mother was one. It's just most working mothers I know would rather be with their children. They just can't afford it.</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I think you will be very&nbsp;happy with your decision Timec~ added benefit: you can dog OB all day long!&nbsp;&nbsp;<b>;-)&nbsp;</b>&nbsp; Seriously~your kids are&nbsp;the most important thing here.Time spent with them and on them is time you will never regret!</span>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269993 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_269993 <p><span style="font-size: small">I think you will be very&nbsp;happy with your decision Timec~ added benefit: you can dog OB all day long!&nbsp;&nbsp;<b>;-)&nbsp;</b>&nbsp; Seriously~your kids are&nbsp;the most important thing here.Time spent with them and on them is time you will never regret!</span>&nbsp;</p> <p><span style="font-size: small">TIMEC:&nbsp; I agree with all who have recommended &quot;stay home&quot;. I quit a job I detested after 12 years with the company. Have never regretted it nor looked back! You have kids who need you now, and will be much more appreciative (probably later!!!) that you were there to drive them to ball practice/games. You can also spend time participating in your child classroom so you can actually see what's going on!&nbsp; My daughter has 3 degrees and is a stay-at-home mom. She wouldn't have it any other way.&nbsp;</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">A job will always be there,&nbsp;your kids will grow up and be gone on to their own lives. Life is not a video that we can re-wind and there are no do-overs.</span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270000 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270000 <p><span style="font-size: small">TIMEC:&nbsp; I agree with all who have recommended &quot;stay home&quot;. I quit a job I detested after 12 years with the company. Have never regretted it nor looked back! You have kids who need you now, and will be much more appreciative (probably later!!!) that you were there to drive them to ball practice/games. You can also spend time participating in your child classroom so you can actually see what's going on!&nbsp; My daughter has 3 degrees and is a stay-at-home mom. She wouldn't have it any other way.&nbsp;</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">A job will always be there,&nbsp;your kids will grow up and be gone on to their own lives. Life is not a video that we can re-wind and there are no do-overs.</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">ob</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I have not discussed this with my brothers but they will tell me to keep working so I can continue to loan them money.......Hey did you know Deandre Thompson aka &quot;Take OFF&quot; or the&nbsp;loser that killed him....I guess I shouldn't say the name of the killer since the cops don't know yet....See you all just need to give them time..they will kill each other...there is no need to chase em...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Sage </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">OB will become my full-time project............Yippee! I can blog morning, noon, and night...oh wait I already do that...lol</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Nancy</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">When I go to the 99 cent store I have a hard time finding the designer purses...does anyone know what isle they are on?...lol That is a nice Goodwill..I just can't stand looking through all of that stuff......but I do&nbsp;love deals.....</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270016 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270016 <p><span style="font-size: small">ob</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">I have not discussed this with my brothers but they will tell me to keep working so I can continue to loan them money.......Hey did you know Deandre Thompson aka &quot;Take OFF&quot; or the&nbsp;loser that killed him....I guess I shouldn't say the name of the killer since the cops don't know yet....See you all just need to give them time..they will kill each other...there is no need to chase em...</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Sage </span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">OB will become my full-time project............Yippee! I can blog morning, noon, and night...oh wait I already do that...lol</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">Nancy</span></p> <p><span style="font-size: small">When I go to the 99 cent store I have a hard time finding the designer purses...does anyone know what isle they are on?...lol That is a nice Goodwill..I just can't stand looking through all of that stuff......but I do&nbsp;love deals.....</span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Timec ,, do your brothers (sorry) work at&nbsp;3-Way ? Or any&nbsp;of the other non-brother businesses that will be laying off big time soon? &nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270018 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270018 <p>Timec ,, do your brothers (sorry) work at&nbsp;3-Way ? Or any&nbsp;of the other non-brother businesses that will be laying off big time soon? &nbsp;</p> <p>&quot;<font size="2">Hey did you know Deandre Thompson aka &quot;Take OFF&quot; or the&nbsp;loser that killed him....I guess I shouldn't say the name of the killer since the cops don't know yet....&quot;</font></p> <p><font size="2">Okay you just won me over to your side a lil with that one TIMEC, lol&nbsp;&nbsp; bout made me spit out my peanut M &amp; M's when I read that lol</font></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270023 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270023 <p>&quot;<font size="2">Hey did you know Deandre Thompson aka &quot;Take OFF&quot; or the&nbsp;loser that killed him....I guess I shouldn't say the name of the killer since the cops don't know yet....&quot;</font></p> <p><font size="2">Okay you just won me over to your side a lil with that one TIMEC, lol&nbsp;&nbsp; bout made me spit out my peanut M &amp; M's when I read that lol</font></p> <p>Good advice as usual.  If your company has a leave of absence program you might give it a try.  Our if they don't check others that do and see if they are open to something like that.  No bridges completely burned that way.  Working at a job you don't like maybe the one of the worse things in life, unhealthy also.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270027 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270027 <p>Good advice as usual.  If your company has a leave of absence program you might give it a try.  Our if they don't check others that do and see if they are open to something like that.  No bridges completely burned that way.  Working at a job you don't like maybe the one of the worse things in life, unhealthy also.</p> <p>If you think about it, you rarely hear anyone say &quot;I sure wish I hadn't spent so much time with my kids when they were growing up.&quot;</p> <p>I spent as much time as possible with my sons and now I reap the rewards of that.&nbsp; But if I could do it over, I 'd spend even more time with them.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270033 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270033 <p>If you think about it, you rarely hear anyone say &quot;I sure wish I hadn't spent so much time with my kids when they were growing up.&quot;</p> <p>I spent as much time as possible with my sons and now I reap the rewards of that.&nbsp; But if I could do it over, I 'd spend even more time with them.</p> <p><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS"><span style="font-size: small">Maggie</span></span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS"><span style="font-size: small">No my brothers are not working...but one of my brothers has started to look for a job...so something is better than nothing....lol</span></span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270037 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270037 <p><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS"><span style="font-size: small">Maggie</span></span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Comic Sans MS"><span style="font-size: small">No my brothers are not working...but one of my brothers has started to look for a job...so something is better than nothing....lol</span></span></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Whenever you feel the urge to shop, just ask yourself &quot;what's more important, spending time with the kids or closets full of stuff?&quot; That tends to put things in the proper perspective. In fact, if you find you need more money, just start digging through said closets and sell things. </p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270038 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270038 <p>Whenever you feel the urge to shop, just ask yourself &quot;what's more important, spending time with the kids or closets full of stuff?&quot; That tends to put things in the proper perspective. In fact, if you find you need more money, just start digging through said closets and sell things. </p> <p><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">timec - I am a single mom who has to work.&nbsp;Two years ago, I left a job that I loved and paid good benefits.&nbsp;Most days, my job required me to work up to 14 sometimes 16 hours per day.&nbsp;I chose to work out of my home so that I could be more available to my son who was entering high school.&nbsp;My son has always been a good kid but I did not want him to be a latch-key kid and not allow him to participate in afterschool activities.&nbsp;I have been in the Early Childhood Education field for 28 years so I opened a Licensed Family Child Care facility in my home.&nbsp;Granted I work at the minimum 10 &frac12; hours per day but I know that I am done at 5:30 every day and can volunteer and participate in all of his activities.&nbsp;My days are long but worth it.&nbsp;</span></span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">Our children grow so fast and they need us whether they are very young or teenagers.&nbsp;The time will come when we can work any job and any hours we want.&nbsp;As long as I can pay my bills and not need any assistance, I will sacrifice all extras to be there for my son.</span></span></p> <div style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">As for starting a new business&hellip;&hellip;&hellip;I agree with the other posts.&nbsp;Starting a business is more than a fulltime job for at least a couple of years and it usually adds unneeded stress plus this is probably not the right time in our current economy.&nbsp;Let go of some of the extras.&nbsp;When your children are grown and out of the home you will not regret it and later on they will truly appreciate all that you did for them.</span></span></div> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270039 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270039 <p><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">timec - I am a single mom who has to work.&nbsp;Two years ago, I left a job that I loved and paid good benefits.&nbsp;Most days, my job required me to work up to 14 sometimes 16 hours per day.&nbsp;I chose to work out of my home so that I could be more available to my son who was entering high school.&nbsp;My son has always been a good kid but I did not want him to be a latch-key kid and not allow him to participate in afterschool activities.&nbsp;I have been in the Early Childhood Education field for 28 years so I opened a Licensed Family Child Care facility in my home.&nbsp;Granted I work at the minimum 10 &frac12; hours per day but I know that I am done at 5:30 every day and can volunteer and participate in all of his activities.&nbsp;My days are long but worth it.&nbsp;</span></span></p> <p><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">Our children grow so fast and they need us whether they are very young or teenagers.&nbsp;The time will come when we can work any job and any hours we want.&nbsp;As long as I can pay my bills and not need any assistance, I will sacrifice all extras to be there for my son.</span></span></p> <div style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt"><span style="font-family: Arial"><span style="font-size: x-small">As for starting a new business&hellip;&hellip;&hellip;I agree with the other posts.&nbsp;Starting a business is more than a fulltime job for at least a couple of years and it usually adds unneeded stress plus this is probably not the right time in our current economy.&nbsp;Let go of some of the extras.&nbsp;When your children are grown and out of the home you will not regret it and later on they will truly appreciate all that you did for them.</span></span></div> <p>Sorry....didn`t mean to be a busy body.....</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270040 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270040 <p>Sorry....didn`t mean to be a busy body.....</p> <p>Timec-good luck with your decision!! As far as good bye Macys, I say hello EBAY!! You can get great deals on the purses they sell.  Especially if you can spot a fake purse from a real one. </p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270046 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270046 <p>Timec-good luck with your decision!! As far as good bye Macys, I say hello EBAY!! You can get great deals on the purses they sell.  Especially if you can spot a fake purse from a real one. </p> <p>Timec, I know it takes persreverance but daughter has sold some incredible things on ebay that she got at Thrift Sotres.&nbsp; One was a Gucci scarf and several designer suspenders..yes..suspenders.&nbsp; Whoulda thunk it.&nbsp; She has the best luck with hospital guildes and such but hates Goodwill and Salvation Army because they're over priced for resale.&nbsp;&nbsp; She and her fella travel with his work and the first thing she does is find the Thrifts.&nbsp;</p> <p>She only deals in vintage unless something really special comes along and she makes a tidy bit that way.&nbsp;&nbsp; You're already set up for it with the jeans...hit the shops and yard sales gal.&nbsp; Oh, and estates sales run by famililes.&nbsp; If you go to one that's run by a broker you won't find resale deals unless you wait til the last day...and by then the good stuff is gone.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270082 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270082 <p>Timec, I know it takes persreverance but daughter has sold some incredible things on ebay that she got at Thrift Sotres.&nbsp; One was a Gucci scarf and several designer suspenders..yes..suspenders.&nbsp; Whoulda thunk it.&nbsp; She has the best luck with hospital guildes and such but hates Goodwill and Salvation Army because they're over priced for resale.&nbsp;&nbsp; She and her fella travel with his work and the first thing she does is find the Thrifts.&nbsp;</p> <p>She only deals in vintage unless something really special comes along and she makes a tidy bit that way.&nbsp;&nbsp; You're already set up for it with the jeans...hit the shops and yard sales gal.&nbsp; Oh, and estates sales run by famililes.&nbsp; If you go to one that's run by a broker you won't find resale deals unless you wait til the last day...and by then the good stuff is gone.</p> <p>timec:  You have made the right decision to stay home with your children.  You might have to watch your nickles and dimes for awhile, but I am sure that you will be much more contented and happier. </p> <p>I would never advise anyone to stay in a job that they did not like.  I finally quit the county after being at KMC For 10 years.  I really hated working there and the last 2 years or so were unbearable, as my boss was going through a mid-lile crisis or some kind of personal trauma in her life and she was the boss from Hell.  She especially loved to torment me at every opportunity and I was almost ready to file a harrassement suit.  Well she must have heard about this and so she throws me a Good-By Party when I left.   She personally bought 2 cakes for the whole department, hmmm???  </p> <p>But my message is never stay in a job that makes you miserable -- mainly for your mental and physical well-being.  It does terrible things to you when you keep working in this state of mind day after day.  I know and would never go through that again. </p> <p>But timec, I just hope you are very happy staying home and being a stay-home Mom.  Your kids will be so happy and I am sure you will see a change in them too.  You will never regret this. </p> <p>Good Luck.  </p> <p> </p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270129 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270129 <p>timec:  You have made the right decision to stay home with your children.  You might have to watch your nickles and dimes for awhile, but I am sure that you will be much more contented and happier. </p> <p>I would never advise anyone to stay in a job that they did not like.  I finally quit the county after being at KMC For 10 years.  I really hated working there and the last 2 years or so were unbearable, as my boss was going through a mid-lile crisis or some kind of personal trauma in her life and she was the boss from Hell.  She especially loved to torment me at every opportunity and I was almost ready to file a harrassement suit.  Well she must have heard about this and so she throws me a Good-By Party when I left.   She personally bought 2 cakes for the whole department, hmmm???  </p> <p>But my message is never stay in a job that makes you miserable -- mainly for your mental and physical well-being.  It does terrible things to you when you keep working in this state of mind day after day.  I know and would never go through that again. </p> <p>But timec, I just hope you are very happy staying home and being a stay-home Mom.  Your kids will be so happy and I am sure you will see a change in them too.  You will never regret this. </p> <p>Good Luck.  </p> <p> </p> <p>Thrift store searching and then selling on ebay sounds like a great opportunity for you to shop and resell! Go for it!!!</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270136 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270136 <p>Thrift store searching and then selling on ebay sounds like a great opportunity for you to shop and resell! Go for it!!!</p> <p>Timec you just need to win the lottery! Then even Old Blue will be your best friend. LOL</p> <p>Okay, never mind, we all know the lottery is a tax on the mathematically challenged, but we can dream can't we?</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270234 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270234 <p>Timec you just need to win the lottery! Then even Old Blue will be your best friend. LOL</p> <p>Okay, never mind, we all know the lottery is a tax on the mathematically challenged, but we can dream can't we?</p> <p>well... timec.. I think&nbsp;you&nbsp;are&nbsp;the most ignorant person ever to blog.. you talk about what you dont know.. you made a comment about deondre? you dont know anything about him other than the news reported that he got shot. open your eyes because not everybody who gets shot is a bad person. that was one of my very close friends and i know first hand that he wasnt a bad person.. regardless of what you choose to think. and i am very offended by the comment you made. you are ignorant and disrespectful. i dont even blog on the web i think its a waste of time. But i just so happened to get on here today to check up on any leads because MY friend died. and this is what i have to look at? ignorant people who have no lives sitting around talking about somebody who lost their life. you need to re-evaluate your life.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270875 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270875 <p>well... timec.. I think&nbsp;you&nbsp;are&nbsp;the most ignorant person ever to blog.. you talk about what you dont know.. you made a comment about deondre? you dont know anything about him other than the news reported that he got shot. open your eyes because not everybody who gets shot is a bad person. that was one of my very close friends and i know first hand that he wasnt a bad person.. regardless of what you choose to think. and i am very offended by the comment you made. you are ignorant and disrespectful. i dont even blog on the web i think its a waste of time. But i just so happened to get on here today to check up on any leads because MY friend died. and this is what i have to look at? ignorant people who have no lives sitting around talking about somebody who lost their life. you need to re-evaluate your life.</p> <p>Hey timec, I guess now both you and I piss people off. Welcome to my world! :)</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270892 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270892 <p>Hey timec, I guess now both you and I piss people off. Welcome to my world! :)</p> &nbsp; I must of missed something? What does quitting your job have to do with someone being shot? Timec........I've never thought of you as "Ignorant and disrespectful" http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270916 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270916 &nbsp; I must of missed something? What does quitting your job have to do with someone being shot? Timec........I've never thought of you as "Ignorant and disrespectful" <p>You got on a blog to look for leads?&nbsp; Who are you?&nbsp; Detective Doolittle?</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270926 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270926 <p>You got on a blog to look for leads?&nbsp; Who are you?&nbsp; Detective Doolittle?</p> &nbsp; Nancy; you never know the shooter could be on the blogs confessing his crime. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270961 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_270961 &nbsp; Nancy; you never know the shooter could be on the blogs confessing his crime. <p>I hadn't thought of that Lana...good call.&nbsp; ;-)</p> <p>Looks like OB has some competiton huh?</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271004 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271004 <p>I hadn't thought of that Lana...good call.&nbsp; ;-)</p> <p>Looks like OB has some competiton huh?</p> &nbsp; LOL! http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271036 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271036 &nbsp; LOL! <p>Nancy, these days my only real competition is on the golf course. Everything else is just fun.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271100 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271100 <p>Nancy, these days my only real competition is on the golf course. Everything else is just fun.</p> <p>You mean you aren't on the blog to ferret out clues to help catch the bad guys?&nbsp; Now I'm disappointed.&nbsp; I guess Vikingprincess is on her own.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271106 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271106 <p>You mean you aren't on the blog to ferret out clues to help catch the bad guys?&nbsp; Now I'm disappointed.&nbsp; I guess Vikingprincess is on her own.</p> <p>Sorry to burst your bubble Nancy. LOL.</p> <p>But if I hear anything, I'll pass it on to the proper authorities.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271118 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271118 <p>Sorry to burst your bubble Nancy. LOL.</p> <p>But if I hear anything, I'll pass it on to the proper authorities.</p> <p><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="color: #ff00ff">&nbsp;Timic</span></span>, I have to say, that when you first started on the blog, I thought you were the <span style="font-size: small"><i><b><span style="color: #ff0000">Bitch from Hell</span></b></i></span>.&nbsp; Hell !, you even deleted me from your Friends list when you got so mad at me.</p> <p>Now I have to say that you are, just the opposite, you're really<span style="color: #00ccff"> </span><i><b><span style="color: #00ccff">Pretty cool </span></b></i>and you really care about others.&nbsp; If staying home with the kids makes you feel better, go for it.</p> <p>One question, how old are your kids?&nbsp; If they are in grammar school, it makes more since staying home, if they're in higher grades and able to do for themselves, then that's another story.</p> <p>Bottom line is, <i><b><span style="color: #800080">you do what's best for your kids</span></b></i>, even if it means trimming the fat, cutting corners.&nbsp; With the price of gas now, you could spend time riding bikes with the kids and leaving the car at home a little.</p> <p><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b><span style="color: #ff00ff">What ever you do</span></b></i></span></span>,<span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b><span style="color: #339966"> GOOD LUCK</span></b></i></span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #339966"><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b>Murphy</b></i></span></span></span></p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271124 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271124 <p><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="color: #ff00ff">&nbsp;Timic</span></span>, I have to say, that when you first started on the blog, I thought you were the <span style="font-size: small"><i><b><span style="color: #ff0000">Bitch from Hell</span></b></i></span>.&nbsp; Hell !, you even deleted me from your Friends list when you got so mad at me.</p> <p>Now I have to say that you are, just the opposite, you're really<span style="color: #00ccff"> </span><i><b><span style="color: #00ccff">Pretty cool </span></b></i>and you really care about others.&nbsp; If staying home with the kids makes you feel better, go for it.</p> <p>One question, how old are your kids?&nbsp; If they are in grammar school, it makes more since staying home, if they're in higher grades and able to do for themselves, then that's another story.</p> <p>Bottom line is, <i><b><span style="color: #800080">you do what's best for your kids</span></b></i>, even if it means trimming the fat, cutting corners.&nbsp; With the price of gas now, you could spend time riding bikes with the kids and leaving the car at home a little.</p> <p><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b><span style="color: #ff00ff">What ever you do</span></b></i></span></span>,<span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b><span style="color: #339966"> GOOD LUCK</span></b></i></span></span></p> <p><span style="color: #339966"><span style="font-size: medium"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman"><i><b>Murphy</b></i></span></span></span></p> <p>Timec - how did everything turn out? What was your final decision? Regardless of age, I always had my mom over during the days to "help" the kids - really just a cover, but it was great having her here when they were in high school. Not only just someone to talk to, but someone to report to, a reason to be home on time or check in, and to bring friends over where there was adult supervision.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271204 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/timec/29674/#c_271204 <p>Timec - how did everything turn out? What was your final decision? Regardless of age, I always had my mom over during the days to "help" the kids - really just a cover, but it was great having her here when they were in high school. Not only just someone to talk to, but someone to report to, a reason to be home on time or check in, and to bring friends over where there was adult supervision.</p>