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I moved into my home in Feb 2008 and two weeks later the house was vandalized. I know who did this to me. An angry, jealous person who is a jerk and unhappy with his financial situation and life in general. We used to date "off and on" for a few years, and when he met a special woman and wanted to share his life with her, I was happy and wished him well. I believed he would "move on" to a new life adventure, and there were no bad feelings or jealousy on my part. You see, I had "gauged" him pretty well by now. He was broke and in trouble with the IRS in 2006 and wanted to borrow $7000.00 from me. Luckily that never happened as I would have to kiss the money goodbye.  

Anyway, he now had someone to take care of him, and I was off the hook so so I thought. He continued to see me "on the side" and said, "what she does not know will not hurt her." Of course, I never visited his home, but he visited mine. This man has lived in the community all his life, has a graduate degree in counseling and claims to be "intuitive" on so many levels. So, now we are in the year 2007, and I was actively looking for a house. We talked about me renting his home, but were unable to work out the logistics and details given that he did not want to move his property and expected that I would allow him to be in the home at any given time working on "important projects." I also began dating a very nice man during this year. Well, the jerk was angry and started making derogatory remarks about my relationship which I chose not to pay attention to.

I bought a house in February 2008 and was happy and excited and moved in. My boyfriend was gracious and took care of all the handy man work prior to my family's visit and the house-blessing. The jerk came over to fix a faucet and even after two days, he was unable to install the faucet appropriately. In the meantime, the jerk opened all the drawers and every cupboard and wanted to check things out. I was uncomfortable with his overall demeanor but did not say anything. There was a picture of my boyfriend on the refrigerator and the jerk commented, "so were you going to discuss this with me?" Did not have anything to discuss as I am entitled to my privacy. 

Came home from work on a Friday afternoon to find the doors and windows open and "poop" on my computer, urine all over the floor and the computer keyboard, wires to the television cut off, safe broken in to, or rather his feeble attempts at wanting to break into the safe, a picture of his genitals on the TV screen with the words "f--- you," and so much more! I knew immediately who had been to my home. My friends came over immediately and were also of the opinion that Ken did this to me out of his own anger and rage at my being secure and happy!

His actions were traumatic both psychologically and emotionally. The police did nothing and did not interview the jerk till several months later and destroyed all the evidence collected from my home. The detective in charge said, "I know he did it but there is no proof." The assistant chief of police said the same along with, "it is too expensive conduct the DNA testing" despite the fact that I was willing to pay.

This jerk is currently engaged and at the time had bought an expensive tennis bracelet for his fiance while on a cruise. Of course, the bracelet was charged to her credit card. He believed by breaking into my safe, he could obtain the money to pay the fiance's credit card. I am so glad that the God was watching over me that day. What if I had been in the house? He could have hurt me, raped me or done just about anything!!

While all the material stuff has been replaced and an alarm system installed, my question is: how do people get away by hurting innocent people like me? All because I was happy and dating and did not want to be with him anymore.

What is ironic is that Ken's fiance has not tied the knot despite the two year engagement. Perhaps she too is starting to see the light of day, and does not want to support a loser, because that is what Ken is. The man is "free loader"and probably has smooth talked his way into her innocent heart. What is also very interesting is that it should be of no surprise if there are other women in Ken's life. After all, he is a musician, and an aging, paunchy man who is out of touch with the real world. His music business is pathetic to say the least. He claims to be "all that" but one ought to listen carefully to his words which carry no meaning and no substance. I feel terribly sorry for the blond he is engaged to. The woman probably pays for everything because the man is broke.

 I was angry at first for what he did to me and for no reason whatsoever. Never did I interfere or intrude in his life and was in fact happy that he was happy with someone special. I will never comprehend this level of rage and anger. What I will say though is that he did call the following week after the incident and left a nonchalant voice-mail. Then there was an e-mail a couple of months later which was forwarded to law enforcement and of course, my attorney! The man is narcissistic but he is also a coward! He is a scumbag and a low-life and has no regard or respect for anyone else. It is all about him, but you know, what goes around, comes around!

What Ken does not understand is that I am a successful, empowered woman with a great family background and someone who knows how to take care of business.  My family and friends have been wonderful and supportive and I am so blessed for everything. The anger and nightmares are over, and I feel nothing but pity for the jerk and also his fiance! If the woman has any sense, she will run as fast as she can but then, Ken may hurt her too. After all, she is the "sugar mama" and he will not let her go. Ken has a reputation of being a "playboy" and dates women who are successful and well off, so that he can "mooch" off!

I hope my story serves as a lesson to all successful women who take pride in their accomplishments! Be careful of the 'freeloaders' and protect what is yours under any and all circumstances.

My home is my castle and Ken is not going to be allowed to hurt me anymore.