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Binning who has been dubbed an “over achiever,” by most of her friends, family and colleagues, is a firm believer in the fact that “you are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul.” She believes that there is no such thing as an unattainable goal and wishes to pass that on to her readers.

The book, “Circumstances,” is a touching, life-affirming, deeply emotional book with a generous dose of romance. It asks the ultimate question: are you happy with your choices in life and the circumstances that those choices have allowed?

In the book Binning discusses the topics that most people are embarrassed to talk about thinking that they are alone.  She hopes that when others read the book they might be able to see themselves more honestly and get closer to the truth about how they are living.  People live their lives constantly blaming others for their mishaps but in her book, Binning challenges readers to be more open with themselves about their faults and limitations and spend less energy trying to maintain an image of them as always smart, kind and competent. The recognition of our own foolish and selfish acts adds a healthy dose of humility that may help counter our tendencies towards arrogance and self-righteousness. Of particular importance, we can develop healthier and more lasting relationships with others because we can sometimes "preflect" on how they may respond before we take a particular action. In situations where we are faced with ethical choices or dilemmas we can ask ourselves, "How would I like to be treated if I were in the other person's shoes?"

A compilation of three stories, the book starts with the story of a child named Bella who is beautiful and shy but also emotionally abused. She endured a childhood that presented many unfortunate events which she would not wish on anyone. One day Bella realized that she needed to make a choice and she did------she made the choice to embrace her circumstances and take the lessons learned with her to the next stage of life.

Because of her acceptance of her past, Bella became a force to be reckoned with. She started out losing one of the most precious people in her life----her father, and still yearned for that father-daughter relationship. Decades later, she repeated her mother’s life and then came to the realization that she made her own choices which brought the circumstances which she had. She chose to live with them, to accept them for what they were and used them as a basis for her future.

According to Binning, writing the book was a revelation for her because it came from the heart.  During her studies in psychology she learned to self reflect and develop the ability to empathize. From her travel around the world, she learned different cultures which have helped her to accept people for who they are and not to hold them at the same standards which she holds herself.   

She believes that many people go through their lives not knowing the joys of self reflection----not knowing that it opens up many doors for them spiritually, psychologically and in their relationships with others.   

Although the words in the book were written by her, they are incredibly influential and are the primary promoter of purpose in her life. Since the book has been released, many readers have expressed the power that the book has given them.  The power to change their lives or merely motivating them to understand others and then to be understood themselves.

The most significant message that Binning is trying to relay is that “we have to make the change we want to see in our lives,” No one else can do it but us, therefore we must engage in self awareness, not only at the beginning of each year, but all year.  As a human being we spend so much time distorting our lives and now it is time for clarity. Sorting through the layers may take some time and concentrated effort but do remember that it takes patience and commitment, along with a good dose of compassion and self nurturing.

You can purchase the book today and answer the question for yourself. The book is available where all great books are sold so log onto www.xlibris.com/CircumstancesbyBJBinning.html, www.bn.com, www.borders.com, www.amazon.com , Russo’s bookstore or call 1-888-795-4274 ext. 7876.

You can also purchase the book and get it signed, this weekend, Saturday, November 3, 2007 at the festival of books at Bakersfield College from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.