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Gender: female Date of Birth: January 01, 1959 Member Since: March 14, 2006 Last Signed In: October 12, 2008 Profile Views: 29 Blog Views: 309 Wanna be pals? August 08 September 08 October 08 November 08 December 08 January 09 February 09 March 09 April 09 May 09 June 09 July 09 August 09 September 09 October 09 November 09 
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Wanna be pals?
I guess I'm finding out that once you're out of high school, it's hard to find and make friends. I'm 21 now, don't go to college so can't meet people there, work full time but most of the people I work with are lots older. I am lonely. I mean, I have a boyfriend, and he's nice, but I wish I had a good gal pal to talk to, to hang out with, go to movies with, exercise with, you know, just be friends with. I would love to be part of a group of good friends like Sex and the City or Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants. Unfortunately, most of my high school friends have moved away or we've lost touch and I miss that connection to others. Let me tell you about me: I'm straight and engaged to a nice man, so I'm not looking for romance. I'm not really much of a reader and I don't keep too up-to-date on the news, though I do like People magazine, lol. I'm about 25 pounds heavy and would like to exercise, but don't enjoy doing it alone. I'm a member at 24-hour fitness, but I also have a bike and like to walk, so the gym isn't the only spot for me to exercise. I'm a smoker and I drink once in awhile. I don't go to church, but I'm Catholic. I wouldn't mind returning to a church, but my boyfriend won't go. I have a couple of tattoos, a few piercings, but I'm not wild. My musical taste is pretty moderate. I have one really bad habit (besides the smoking): I tend to swear a lot. Mostly, I think, it's to shock people, or that's how it started and now it's sort of an unconscious habit. I like to cook and I'm learning how to be better at it. Well, what else is there to say? If you'd like to be friends and you live in Bakersfield, please write. Thanks!
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posted by
catpaw
on Aug 19, 2008 at 02:21 PM
I registered on this site to make friends. Now I just hate people. Get a job...join a book discussion at the library...go to church again...enroll into a couple classes at BC...join a nudist group with your boyfriend...lots of ways to meet girl buds. posted by
OldBlue56
on Aug 19, 2008 at 03:43 PM
catpaw, your comment cracked me up!!!! And Kid, you say you smoke, have a couple of tattoos, and some piercings? Have you ever considered joining a girls street gang to meet new friends? posted by
murphyslaw
on Aug 19, 2008 at 03:47 PM
They run a lot in East side. The Cops run with em ;=))) posted by
CatherineBaker
on Aug 19, 2008 at 04:00 PM
I wish you luck, KidVentura. You seem like a sweet girl and I'm sure you would make a great friend. Most of the women bloggers on this site are older (30s and above) but there are a few younguns. And catpaw--right on. What is it about blogging that makes perfectly sane people seem so crazy? Or do the blogs only attract crazy people? Chicken or egg? posted by
jasonsperber
on Aug 19, 2008 at 04:08 PM
posted by
Ray_Harwick
on Aug 19, 2008 at 04:58 PM
Well, it's good that you're not trying to substitute the internet for real, person-to-person friendship. That's a losing proposition. Hmmm. Seems to me that the Sex and the City bunch all met via work or shared interests, so take that as your cue. You could take a personal survey of YOUR interests, which might include religion, but if your fiance doesn't want to get into that, you have to be real with yourself and ask if it matters to you in terms of your pursuing that course. The Rule of the Happy Vagabond is: "Everyone doesn't have to do what everyone else is doing." In my marriage that's a SERIOUS rule because I'm a fastpitch softball fanatic and my husband is a bridge-playing psychotic and never the twain shall meet. We go our separate ways and I have my group of softball groupies to hang out with. We still tell each other about our interests but we had to DECIDE to respect each other's direction. So, I' guess I'm saying that it's a good idea to pursue what you want if your fiance can deal with you having your own interests. Don't ever expect that he will become interested in what you do, but always keep the issue open that it's okay to be with your pals as along as the personal commitment toward real, trusting fidelity stays intact. It's possible. Many people achieve that kind of relationship, so don't just sit and wonder if he's going to like it, ASK HIM NOW what he thinks of that idea. That will at least free you up from not knowing. posted by
Tiffanilynn
on Aug 19, 2008 at 06:55 PM
HEY cat!! im younger =) i just keep up with the 30 something year olds on here LOL...
im a younger blogger on here too... i have found some amazing people on this site, and i have met some really rude people, that for some reason keep me coming back for more LOL... what high school did you go to? i went to centennial, i graduated in 05, i still have some friends from there but most are all grown up married and have kids... i am not quite ready yet, still want to make sure i do this life thing right.. i too am with a gym.. but body exchange, i dont smoke, i try to get my friends to stop lol.... its gross. and i too swear A LOT. i hate it, and would love to stop hahaha.... u will make friends on here, its not hard. u too will make enemies. welcome aboard.. posted by
CatherineBaker
on Aug 19, 2008 at 07:18 PM
Hey Tiffani! Long time no see. Actually, you were one of the younger women I was thinking of when I mentioned the younguns. Yeah, I don't really know why I keep coming back on here, either. Misery loves company, I guess. : ) posted by
Tiffanilynn
on Aug 19, 2008 at 08:33 PM
i know i try to stay away then i start missing all my bloggers lol!! posted by
ihaveissuesryr
on Oct 27, 2008 at 05:05 PM
hey girl you sound just like me! shoot me an email! Rachel.... ihaveissuesryr@yahoo.com posted by
rhill911
on Nov 3, 2008 at 03:19 PM
Hello... me and my wife are looking to make some friends, and we might have some stuff in common... we are 27 but we are fun kids lol... we are video game nerds (WOW) well if u are interested in hanging out sometime... let me know... rhill911@aol.com BTW my name is Richard posted by
jasonluvs49rs
on May 13, 2009 at 08:39 PM
Hey kidventura why not have a male friend, I mean just because its a male, that don't mean he has to be your boyfriend right! Not all guys think the same, I mean I have female friends that are just friends only, nothing more, maybe you could have better luck with a male friend instead of a female friend, unless your boyfriend is the jealous type.
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