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What does it take for a RELATION SHIP to stand the test of time?
I think it takes maturity. I think it takes a solid foundation of mutual trust. I think it takes gentleness. I think it takes loyalty. I think it takes humility. I think it takes unconditional love. I think it takes sacrifice. I think it takes unselfishness. I think it takes hope. I think it takes support. I think it takes time. I think it takes faith. Then again, what do I know?
What do you think it takes for a RELATION SHIP to stand the test of time--to weather the storms of life? Let's pool our resources and see if we can form an ocean of insight. 19 comments from 9 users
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posted by
gsisola
on Jul 20, 2007 at 10:58 PM
Funny you should mention this today, Tami and I were married on 07-21-1984. I think it takes true friend-ship, trust, honor, respect, honesty, love and above all commitment . Do not forget who the other person is, the key here is "person", not your "other", "ball n chain" or "old lady" the true person they are and what "put" and still "puts" that "sparkle in your eye" about them. Renew yourselves from time to time. Remember all the moments of your life together, good and bad, and the journey you have made together. Have fun together.
posted by
blognroll
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:00 PM
You've offered some great insights, drawn from the best source of all-----years of personal experience.
posted by
possummomma
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:04 PM
Patience and empathy. Loyalty. Persistence. LOVE! :)
posted by
blognroll
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:16 PM
There can never be enough of those things in any relationship. I couldn't agree more! I'd like to add one more: sleep. Sleep deprivation can take a terrible toll on any relationship. And speaking of sleep, I think I'm going to try and get some now. I'll be checking for more insights in the morning. Good night one and all!
posted by
dusty1215
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:19 PM
It takes compassion, equality, love(but not unconditional) and respect. Those are the biggies anyway imho.
posted by
blognroll
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:20 PM
You caught me just before I was about to catch those z's. Thanks for your input, dusty. Good night.
posted by
dusty1215
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:25 PM
Night BLT.
posted by
mattloch
on Jul 20, 2007 at 11:46 PM
Celibacy. /or at least effective birth control //experience ///FTL posted by
KathyBates
on Jul 21, 2007 at 12:51 AM
10 years here, yesterday. I believe that you must be friends first. When you are friends, you don't hide anything. You act the REAL way, no faking it. Thats what we were, we were best friends. Saw each others faults, heartbreaks, laughed together ... everything that you would not show to a possible mate. So when we got married, we already knew each other. Friends do make better lovers, in my case he made the best husband and dad. posted by
blognroll
on Jul 21, 2007 at 05:55 AM
Mattloch, you've introduced a unique perspective, as usual : ). Kathy, you make a great point. Somebody gave me that advice when I first met the woman I am now married to, and so far, it's proven to have worked.
posted by
sfinboston52
on Jul 21, 2007 at 06:15 AM
10+ (married 3) years for us, I think it is part being best friends, sharing our lives and not taking each other for granted. Also, laughter, lots of laughter. I know the love I now have for my husband is far deeper than it was 10 years ago it has aged like a fine wine. We give each other space to be ourselves and accept each other for who we really are. I am so looking forward to the next 10 years and growing old w/ him. posted by
blognroll
on Jul 21, 2007 at 07:15 AM
Not taking each other for granted is soooooooooo important, it cannot be stressed enough. And you are absolutely correct. Laughter is great medicine, and it can add grease to the wheels of any relationship, helping things run much more smoothly.
posted by
sfinboston52
on Jul 21, 2007 at 11:03 AM
also the little jokes or inside comments that only a spouse would know or understand.
posted by
anglo1
on Jul 21, 2007 at 02:35 PM
Fear. She carries a .38 special.
posted by
sfinboston52
on Jul 21, 2007 at 02:37 PM
also, simply realizing this is the person who loves you at your worst.
posted by
anglo1
on Jul 21, 2007 at 02:40 PM
Tolerance, compromise, respect. All of the above and more, I think when the mere thought of hurting the love of your life means way more to you than the act your contemplating your relationship can last.
posted by
ceeceehowell
on Jul 21, 2007 at 02:52 PM
LOL anglo! Respect. That is the only thing I tell people. When you first respect someone, no matter if they are your friend, your mom, your wife or your husband, anything else that you need in a relationship is based in respect. You cannot love or appreciate someone that you have no respect for. You may not always agree with the choices they make, but if you can respect someone, as a person, loving them, appreciating them, being loyal to them, it all will come as long as you harbor those feelings and actions. I respect that my husband is a completely different person than I am, in every way, but because of that respect that I have for him, everything else is easier.
posted by
sfinboston52
on Jul 21, 2007 at 02:58 PM
Ceecee great point posted by
blognroll
on Jul 21, 2007 at 05:49 PM
Absolutely, respect is essential. And if you respect yourself, it is much easier to gain respect from the person you're with.
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