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I've had all sorts of friends. Skinny ones, fat ones, successful ones, not-so-successful ones, lazy ones, active ones, friends with half a dozen kids, friends with no kids.. but what are their similiarites and differences? It has absolutely nothing to do with what I listed above. My very first friend, I didn't make until 6th grade. We had a ton in common. We were both "outcasts" in school.. you know the ones.. the ones the other kids stayed away from as if we had boiles all over our skin and by merely looking at us they'd catch our disease. I have no idea what was so repelling about us, but that's how it felt. We met one day playing teatherball. Both of us were really good, the napolean dynamites of the school. I don't really remember if we played very competively, which is probably why we got along so well. we both knew we were good, and we just loved playing the game. We also looked like sisters (we went to a pretty dominantly upper class "white" school), and we both had the love of goofing off and laughing. It makes me smile when I think about the fact that we would spend all day together at school, and almost immediately come home and talk on the phone for hours. (who needs homework?) we had so much fun together. I never questioned her acceptance and her friendship. we teased each other a lot, in love. After life happened, friendships changed dramatically. Everything I felt with my first friend was GONE. Friendship became the complete opposite. It felt like a constant contest, something to be "earned", feeling as though I was always under a microscope, over criticised, every flaw about me was like a huge obvious mole. It was highly uncomfortable. After many, many, MANY years of this, I've forgotten what it's like to truly BE a friend, and what is a friend. So what am I learning about what is a true friend? Well, firstly, I know I don't do all these things for others, but I have the desire to...
I could probably go on and on, but this is what I am learning. I am learning that this list is exactly who Jesus is, and there is no other friendship like His. 5 comments from 4 users
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posted by
michele1075
on May 10, 2008 at 03:03 PM
A friend is one who sits in the jail cell next to you saying:"dang we messed up". LOL!!! Freethinker- I had a best friend for 15 years. We were closer than my sister and I and her vice versa. When I got married almost 2 years ago things changed. I started to see we were so different in many ways, when all along I thought we were just alike. I should've listened to my family along time ago. And I'm assuming you are a Christian and I agree that the only friend you need is JESUS. He will be there for you when everyone else walks out!! posted by
witterpitters
on May 10, 2008 at 07:37 PM
I have been friends with my best friend since 1953. We are still friends :-) we were both 8 and I was the new kid on the block. People thought we were velcorved together! When the school put us in different classrooms, we stood on the sidewalk in front of the classes and cried!! Over the years, we drifted in and out of each others' lives but when we did get together it was like no time had ever passed. Now our kids are grown and gone, she is now a widow but we still do girls night out and take trips together. We feel we have come full circle from the first time we met - now it is once again the two of us. OH - our personalities are day and night!!! I bounce off the walls and she is cool & collected!!!! posted by
dcs217
on May 11, 2008 at 04:53 AM
Closer than a brother posted by
NancyII
on May 11, 2008 at 07:40 AM
Freethinker, I had a similar experience. My friend and I go back to when we both got married. We met through hubbies who had grown up together and we stayed friends through divorces, kids, and sometimes distances. Over 30 years. Gradually I began to see, or realize, that I was always subtley put down. We both worked as food servers and bartenders and comments were made that she was better at both jobs..she made more tips and, of all things, that my ex'es liked her better than they did me. She would joke around about it but it still kind of stung. I had quit a job at the bar where I'd been for years and they hired her to take my place. One evening I was visiting one of my long time customers and my friend started joking again about how my exes liked her better and my customer/buddy guy said "Damn girl, can't you get a man of your own or do you just take her leftovers?" I about fell out of my chair laughing at him taking up for me that way. That's when I realized my "friend" was no longer much of a friend. You don't put friends down to try to make yourself look better. I sat her down, told her how I felt, hugged her and walked out. I didn't talk to her for about two years when her sister died and I was at the funeral. We hugged, talked, said we'd get together for lunch, and haven't talked since. The really sad thing is that she told our mutual friends that I was jealous over her friendship with my ex and that was what caused the rift. She didn't listen to a thing I said and only picked up on that one comment. I guess she couldn't accept that it was a series of incidents over many years. posted by
NancyII
on May 11, 2008 at 08:06 AM
Another way of looking at friendship sent to me by a friend. None of that Sissy Crap Are you tired of those sissy “friendship” poems that always sound good, But never actually come close to reality? Well, here is a series of promises that actually speak of true friendship. You will see no cutesy little smiley faces on this card- Just the stone cold truth of our great friendship. 1. When you are sad –I will help you get drunk and plot revenge against 2. When you are blue — I will try to dislodge whatever is choking you. 3. When you smile — I will know you are plotting something that I must be involved in. 6. When you are confused — I will use little words. 7. When you are sick –Stay the hell away from me until you are well 8. When you fall — I will point and laugh at your clumsy azz. 9. This is my oath…. I pledge it to the end. “Why?” you may ask; Friendship is like peeing your pants, everyone can see it, But only you can feel the true warmth. (edited slightly for the PC police)
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