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Gender: female Date of Birth: September 16, 1984 Member Since: March 14, 2006 Last Signed In: March 22, 2009 Profile Views: 4531 Blog Views: 915 Girl shot by CHP Very sad story out of WA State... Guys, ugghh! July 07 August 07 September 07 October 07 November 07 December 07 January 08 February 08 March 08 April 08 May 08 June 08 July 08 August 08 September 08 October 08 November 08 December 08 January 09 February 09 March 09 April 09 May 09 June 09 July 09 August 09 September 09 October 09 November 09 
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Guys, ugghh!
I just don't get you guys! I'm so fed up with the "yah, I'll call you" thing and you don't! I guess I'm just courteous and I call people when I tell them I will. Ok, just thought I would vent, my holiday didn't go as planned :( But, if someone can explain this to me, I'd appreciate it, thank you.
56 comments from 24 users
posted by
jermox
on Jul 4, 2007 at 11:40 PM
Has it been three days?
posted by
msemilyh
on Jul 5, 2007 at 12:48 AM
i'm sorry hon. sadly, i've had so many people flake out on me in the past, not do what they say they will, i've become maybe a bit cynical. i've learned not to hold my breath waiting for someone to call, and i actually expect for people to cancel on me once i've made plans with them. but ya know, maybe it's for the best that you find out now about some people than later on down the road.
posted by
ILUVUSA
on Jul 5, 2007 at 06:57 AM
If that is you in the picture he must be CRAZY for not calling.... Hope things get better for you.
posted by
JustAThought
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:25 AM
Try eharmony.com
I have several friends, including a close relative, who had great success with this. posted by
NancyII
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:31 AM
Isn't eharmony expensive? posted by
TomW
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:35 AM
posted by
steveeswenson
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:40 AM
eharmony is expensive and who you meet is controlled by the site.I found my wife on Match.com, and I would recommend it to anyone. You start out by e-mailing each other through the site's system so you would know before you even meet someone how responsive they are. You can control everything, including blocking people you don't want to deal with. I'm sorry, Rxgirl, that you encountered a clod or two. Think of it was a clear signal not to waste your time with them. Don't give up hope, there really are decent men out there (just as there are decent women in the same maketplace) but the good fish take a little work to catch. posted by
NancyII
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:42 AM
Where do you find these things Tom...hehehe. I mean..I know it's youtube but how do YOU find them? Too funny. Now I have to go to work because none of the dating services found me a fella to support me. ;-) posted by
randomfactor
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:42 AM
eHarm also discriminates against same-sex couples, too. Not that it matters in this case. . I do offer one bit of advice, though. Don't go for the pretty ones. posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:43 AM
If you're getting this bent out of shape about a telephone call, I'd hate to be around when someone leaves the toilet seat up..... ;) You know, if a telephone call means that much to you, give me your number and I'll call you. I'll even pretend to be the guy that you're angry at. I'm used to women yelling at me for things I didn't do. I was married for a while... posted by
NancyII
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:44 AM
My grandson and his bride met on yahoo personals. They've been together for over 4 years and married for one. It CAN be done. posted by
Hardliner4freedom
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:48 AM
One of the first things learned in adult life is "I will call you" is an absolute guarantee that they won't. I can understand forgetting that little truth, though, if you haven't had to look for a job in a while. ;-) posted by
TomW
on Jul 5, 2007 at 09:01 AM
I saw the ad on TV, Nancy. There are a few more too.http://www.youtube.com/watc... http://www.youtube.com/watc... http://www.youtube.com/watc... I searched for Chemistry.com. posted by
woofwoof
on Jul 5, 2007 at 09:20 AM
I never gave my phone number out, I asked for theirs if I was interested. Pretty is as pretty does, RF. But you're right, digging deeper to find the right kind of humour and intellect, is key. posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 5, 2007 at 09:51 AM
You guys are all sweet, thanks for commenting. Yah, I did get a little overheated about a phone call, but hey, I'm okay now. I had a great holiday with my family, so all is well. And for those wondering if that is me in the pic, yes it is. :)
posted by
ILUVUSA
on Jul 5, 2007 at 10:25 AM
Would you really want someone who says they are going to call and then never does? I hope not. You sound like you have a plan for life and I wish you all the luck. Finding a nice guy may be difficult but when the right person comes along you will know it. And as someone has already said stay away from the guys who want more mirror time than you get..... posted by
Hardliner4freedom
on Jul 5, 2007 at 10:44 AM
Heyyyyy, I'm a "mirror guy" and I've been happily married 18 years.
posted by
randomfactor
on Jul 5, 2007 at 10:46 AM
I was happily married for ten years. Of course, the marriage lasted 15...
posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 10:49 AM
Ba-dum-bum!
posted by
tja2fordsters
on Jul 5, 2007 at 12:34 PM
The sad (and happy) reality is that there is not perfect science to the whole thing. All of the great relationships I've had in life, including the great woman I'm married to know, happened when I was least expecting it. I think when we are looking for love we tend to go with what looks like love. (did that make sense to you?) I think we simply connect with great people and then we have to see what happens. I've never been one to freak out over the lack of phone calls, but I also have never been one to wait either. If I was "into" somebody I'd embrace the moment and go with it... not wait 3 days. Go on with your life RXGIRL and if he calls great, if he doesn't I can guarantee that you won't miss out. if it's a date you're looking for I can't imagine you would have too hard of a time peaking peoples interest... if it's love you're looking for, slow down and start with something easier! Like coffee... or miniature golf with friends. My philosophy... bring out the inner dork and just have a good time. The rest will fall into place. posted by
redkernhero
on Jul 5, 2007 at 01:50 PM
Try church, some of the best men and some of the most leacherous men can be found there, you have a choice!
posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 03:37 PM
Ya know rx, perhaps he was just charging his cellphone up for whatever epic conversation you were planning on having with him. Because you know it would be his fault if it gave out after you finished off the ninth hour of your life story...... ;)/yes, there's a reason I'm no longer married //why do you ask? posted by
TomW
on Jul 5, 2007 at 03:43 PM
Someone's grumpy today. Did someone just get dumped?
posted by
TomW
on Jul 5, 2007 at 03:57 PM
Actually Rx, you probably shouldn't take dating advice from any of us. I mean, my best piece of advice is to spray yourself with "new car smell" to attract guys.
posted by
ProgressivePete2
on Jul 5, 2007 at 04:10 PM
"yeah, I'll call you"I thought that's what everybody did in this town. A bunch of flakes around here. I just don't get it either. I'm not even talking about dating either. As far as guys go, they basically lie like that because it's way easier than turning someone down. posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 04:13 PM
Actually Tom, I don't think rx's problem is that she can't attract guys. Her problem seems to be that they lose focus when they can't stare at her anymore...../I keed posted by
pamg
on Jul 5, 2007 at 04:44 PM
Actually Mattloch, I think her problem is that as soon as they find out they're not going to "get lucky" they lose interest. I'm not trying to slam you guys or anything, but every date I've had since I've been single again has gone very well until the end of the evening. After they find out that my definition of a date is completely different from theirs, I never hear from them again.
posted by
CurtDalton
on Jul 5, 2007 at 04:58 PM
Rx Girl:
There can be another explanation...
Back in my younger days, I was incredibly shy. so shy it took every ounce of courage to ask a girl for her phone number. More often than not I wouldn't call - even though I desperately wanted to.
Thank heaven I'm over my shyness now but back then it was terrible.
The guy is not ALWAYS an a-hole, sometimes there are reasons that are not apparent. posted by
Strife183
on Jul 5, 2007 at 05:05 PM
Well just remember not to hold his actions against us 'good ones'. And if at first you don’t succeed...become a nun posted by
KATTBC
on Jul 5, 2007 at 05:10 PM
I think it is funny that there are "rules" to dating. You can't call for three days!!!!!! I personally don't get that. I want someone to be themselves and if they like me, I have no problem if they call me the next day because if I didn't like them, I would nicely indicate that. The "rules" are actually what gets in the way from people saying how they actually feel and if you have had someone you care about walk away and you not be able to tell them that you care, it might be those "rules" that stopped you or those "rules" that made them leave because they had no idea.
posted by
Strife183
on Jul 5, 2007 at 05:26 PM
I don’t really believe in rules. I think we impose rules (walls) on ourselves because we are scared of rejection. ‘If I don’t call her I can’t be rejected’. We all put walls up, just some more than others posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 06:16 PM
Strife183: "Well just remember not to hold his actions against us 'good ones'."What, are you kidding? Women hold things against guys for things we did in their dreams. What makes you think that something another guy did won't be "fair game"? You just need to accept that women will do things like this, and there's nothing you can say or do to avoid it. For only when you accept your fate, can you free yourself from its power over you. posted by
deoxymethyl
on Jul 5, 2007 at 07:04 PM
Must be using the 10 day rule. Wants to seem the opposite of desperate posted by
TomW
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:21 PM
Wow, Mattloch, I thought that was just my experience with the dreaming. Feeling better....and worse.....now.
posted by
NancyII
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:36 PM
Best way to find out if they're married. Ask for their home phone number. Noonono..not the cell..the HOME number. posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 5, 2007 at 08:47 PM
wow, you guys are so hilarious! Actually, I just divorced, yah, I know, shock shock! I'm young, I know, but I don't regret anything, we just grew apart. I'm not looking for anything serious right now, but just hate flakey people, especially guys! I'm just having fun, though, so no hard feelings :)
posted by
mattloch
on Jul 5, 2007 at 10:33 PM
Rxgirl1984: "wow, you guys are so hilarious! Actually, I just divorced, yah, I know, shock shock! I'm young, I know, but I don't regret anything, we just grew apart. I'm not looking for anything serious right now, but just hate flakey people, especially guys! I'm just having fun, though, so no hard feelings :) "You know what? My ex was like that as well. "You don't listen to me." "I think we're growing apart." "Blah, blah, blah." Or something like that. I don't actually know; I stopped listening to her right around the second or third sentence out of her mouth. /I laugh to keep from crying //crying tears of joy posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 6, 2007 at 12:13 AM
Well, it was going our seperate ways and some other unmentionable things that caused our marriage to crumble, but enough about that. Yah, you do seem a bit bitter, did you recently split?? I'm moving on because I know he already has, thank the Lord.
posted by
AudreyB
on Jul 6, 2007 at 08:01 AM
Rx girl Don't put a lot of faith in what someone says on a first, second or even third date. It's easy to fool someone over a short period of time. Hold something of YOURSELF back so you won't feel hurt if they don't call. People today think they need instant intimacy (I don't mean sex) in order to "click". Being friends first doesn't seem to be an option nowdays. Sometimes the old ways are the best. BTW I've been married for 36 years. Some of it wonderful, some bad, some rotten, some blah. posted by
mattloch
on Jul 6, 2007 at 10:34 AM
Rxgirl1984: "Yah, you do seem a bit bitter, did you recently split?? "It is called a "sense of humor". I've heard that some women can not only identify it, but actually find it endearing enough to value it over looks, health, or money. I don't understand why either, so you'll have to ask them about it. I've "moved on" as well, but that doesn't mean I can't make jokes about my ex, either. Hell, that's where some of my best material comes from. And when I say "material", I mean pain and suffering. /sarcasm is also a form of comedy //belittling is not ///unless it happens to someone else, then it becomes comedy ////"Tragedy is when I cut my finger. Comedy is when you walk into an open sewer and die." --Mel Brooks //slashies! posted by
tomz911661
on Jul 6, 2007 at 10:36 AM
matloch....u r hillarious, I also stopped listening to my ex after the 2nd or 3rd sentence.
rxgirl...just chill and enjoy life, don't go looking for love. I was divorce/separated for 2 weeks and was just enjoying life, I was at a party and was talking to this girl she left the party and I found her phone # on my car's windshield the next day. I called her, we went out once on a date then talked on the phone off and on for a month or so. We then lost touch after a month. I was in Seattle on vacation during Thanksgiving '05, she called my cell and I couldn't recognize the number. I answered the call and it was her, she called to invite me to her company xmas party. I accepted, after I flew back from Seattle we met again and started dating. We dated for 7 months before we got married in June '06. We are now very very happily married for a year. She also graduated from East high, and 3 years older than you. LOVE IS GOOD THE FIRST TIME, BUT LOVE IS BETTER THE SECOND TIME AROUND. posted by
TomW
on Jul 6, 2007 at 11:05 AM
Love gets really good on the 21st time. By about the 45th, it starts to peter out.
posted by
RoyTullis
on Jul 6, 2007 at 11:18 AM
Would like to give RX some advise but I don't feel I am qualified. I was married for 47 happy years to the same woman before I lost her to cancer...Tried dating but subconsciously compare others to her. the dates never worked out. When you've had the best it's tough to settled for second best...
posted by
TomW
on Jul 6, 2007 at 01:36 PM
Sorry to hear that Roy. How wonderful though that you got so many fabulous years.
posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 6, 2007 at 01:39 PM
Well, he called me finally! It took him a couple days, I hate that thing, don't play games with me! We're just keeping it simple and fun, nothing serious because he got out of a long term relationship at the beginning of this year. As long as we're on the same page :)
posted by
mattloch
on Jul 6, 2007 at 02:16 PM
.....and all is forgiven. At what point will women realize that they're encouraging this behavior? Honestly, there's a reason some guys act so poorly: because women let them. Not only let them, but reward them. People think I'm "bitter". I'm just tired of being proven right all the time...... /stereotypes have a basis in statistically significant behavior patterns //*shrugs* ///*throws up hands and rolls eyes* ////*walks away while shaking head* posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 6, 2007 at 04:39 PM
oh well, mr. mattloch, i'm not going to marry him! Haha, you need a drink! posted by
mattloch
on Jul 6, 2007 at 07:20 PM
Now now, my father's name is Mr. Mattloch. I'm just plain ol' Mattloch. And I'm waaaaaay ahead of you on the drinking. And yes, women like you is why I drink. posted by
NancyII
on Jul 15, 2007 at 07:49 AM
Matt is sort of right on this one. "We teach people how to treat us." (and yes, I'm checking older stuff you guys posted while I was either 1. At work 2. Out of town, or 3. Asleep. And yes I'm bored. It's Sunday morning and I have a ton of yard work, housework, and laundry to do...none of which are high on my "wanna do" list but are very high on my "gotta do" list.) posted by
rxgirl1984
on Jul 16, 2007 at 04:04 PM
Ok, just to make everyone roll their eyes and say "I told you so"...I called him on Saturday and his ex-girlfriend answered, enough said. Oh well, another one bites the dust :)
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