May the blessing of peace and strength surround and comfort you during this difficult time.

I am so sorry for your loss.  Most sincere condolences.

Does anyone have any way to verify that Tkozy is actually dead?  Obituary?  We have a name and birthday.  I only ask because I think it's a little odd that someone would post a cryptic goodbye note to a newspaper blog site on the same day they plan to kill themselves.  If this is true, then I am very sorry... but, I've been on the net long enough to know that sometimes people will do anything.  By zabasearching her name and birthday, you can find out her address (on Palma Lane).  Is there a report from the Sheriff's dept or Police Department about a death?  I ask, too, because on the 15th, tkozyup joined a syndicate group - view it through google cache here: http://72.14.253.104/search...   Her real name, on the site registry, is Teri Kozy. 

Hopefully someone will provide some insight or confirm that she's really dead (or alive).  :(

Is Tkozy a man?  Is he "Gary"?  If so, why would he take his wife's name and why would this be his last post?  There's a post about the "mother dying", but the first post on the 14th speaks as if it were the poster's blog.  That's why I'm confused.  Who was posting on the 14th?  Why would someone else not say, "Hey...tkozy died!" on the 14th, since they were posting anyway.  Why veil it in terms of "my kids.... oh, wait...it's changed. 

It's also interesting that both Gary and Teri blog in the same style (one or two line paragraphs/thoughts). 

 God is Always There

Our Heavenly Father is always there
He knows our sadness and dispair
And if we would just call on Him
He will always hear our prayer.

When in our life those stuggles come
And we tend to feel so alone
Our Fathers watching from above
With compassion and such love

He knows our every weakness
He sees us when we fail
And yet His perfect love for us
He continues to unveil

He loves to see our child like faith
As we kneel beside our beds
And share our hurts and broken dreams
Before we lay down our heads

So when you are discouraged
And you think that noone cares
Just give it all to God above
Because Hes always there.

The posts have changed.  Right after I asked who it was...there was a name inserted at the end of the first post on the 14th. 

Also strange - Tkozy posted a blog comment at 1:30pm on the 14th.  By 6:00pm, the same day, she was dead and "Gary" was posting ON THE CALIFORNIAN BLOG?  What?  Someone dies and it's tragic....she was 'found dead', which suggests that, within 4.5 hours, someone found her, called an ambulance or authorities, and -one imagines- told the kids, then posted on this site?  That just doesn't seem to make sense. 

Even more interesting - on another site, a "Gary Kozy" has the same IP as is tied to "Tkozy".  It's over a year old.  Although, through zaba, they have different addresses.  Weird.

But the posting says the person was found dead in the morning?  I noticed the change also.

EXACTLY!! How could someone be posting comments on the blogs at 1:30pm, be found dead and have someone make a post at 6:30, yet...that person said she died in the "morning".  She was clearly alive at 1:30pm - that's not morning. 

I'm not really understanding why investigating dates is a priority.. I can't imagine that keeping dates accurate is high on the priority list right now..

Because I think we're being taken for a ride.  There are some things that don't add up.  If she is dead and this person, Gary, knew she loved the Californian blog enough to run in, find her password, and post a "she'd dead" post on the evening of the 14th... then, the situation is odd given the other circumstances.  Also, the posts are being edited to change the story now.

Please do not think that I am in anyway trying to be insensitive to what is going on or has gone on.  The last 3 posts are rather cryptic and possummomma brought up the same questions I was wondering about..

..and.. this matters.. why?

I don't know about you, but I take death pretty seriously.  If tkozy is really dead, then I'll be sad.  If this is a scam, then I'm going to be pissed.  And, someone changing posts and details doesn't bode well for an authentic death. 

posted by tkozy on Friday, September 14, 2007 at 11:51 AM
This is the time stamp on the first post about Tkozy's death.

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Steve,

I am glad to hear of the 93% success rate and wish the best for you.

It was kind of you to visit my blog with your best wishes for my kids and I, on this somber day of your own..

Hey! Were do I have to go to get my free t-shirt?

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So...she was dead at 11:51 AM, but was posting comments at 2pm?

And, if she was dead, it's "such a somber day" that the poster is cruising the blogs three hours post death?  Don't people have arrangements to make and stuff?

Teri L. Kozy died early morning, prior to 8am, 14 Sept. 2007.  Read TBC obit notices on 19 Sept 2007.

It is the mother of the children that has passed and the poster is the father. No big mystery here, the ticket price to this "ride" is a costly "I am so sorry" . "What a piece of work is man".

TKozy~ to the Family and friends may the winds of Peace find your hearts.

Pmomma..did you not meet Tkozy at the meet and greet?  He was at the first one but I'm not sure about the second.  He's been a regular poster here for a long time and I'm surprised at the skepticism expressed by a few on this blog.  Posting that makes sense to some may not be possible when someone is in grief.  He explained right away on his first post that the mother of his children had passed away.

I could be wrong but I got the impression that Gary and Teri were not together when she passed.  He clarified the name issue on another blog this morning.

Everyone -

Janet and I, last night, were trying to figure this out.  The posts, as they are today, were not the same as they are now.  As we watched, the information changed.  THAT was the thing that made as suspicious.  I was not at the first meet and greet, only the last two.  Whoever Tkozy is (man or woman, now I'm not sure) told me that they were female.  And, T Kozy would have been Teri's handle.  Why would GARY Kozy use a T?  Were they not living together but sharing an IP and user name on different sites?  On different sites, Tkozy is a female.  On other sites, male.  As of this AM, most of those posts on other sites have been deleted or edited.   It struck me as odd.

Janet and I also found it odd that someone would lose a loved one and make a post about (in this case) three hours later, and then stay on line to collect sympathies and such.  I've had loved ones die and for the first four days, there was NO TIME to blog about.   There were others on this site who also felt that this could be fake, but...apparently, they're okay letting Janet and I take the fall.  Nice.  One of these people told me that they had met Tkozy and Tkozy was a woman. 

In any case, I apologize for being skeptical.  I've been on the receiving end of "fake deaths" via the internet and it's made me skeptical.  It's pretty common (fake deaths).  My apologies for any pain I've caused.   I'm truly sorry.

I still don't see what either you or janet have to be sorry about.

All people deal with death differently. Some cultures seem to revel in it, others seem to almost ignore it.

I have wondered several times reading this board if there were two people (or more) utilizing that handle.

Some say live like you're dying.

Others say die like your living.

I've seen both

I am truly sorry as I said before for the loss of Tkozy.  I in no way wanted to be disrepectful or unsympathitic.  I merely was puzzled as Possummomma explained. Another thing I was concerned if someone might need help since the messages seemed cryptic. I am sincerely sorry for the loss of Tkozy.

Pictures from the first meet and greet.  Tkozy (Gary) is in the white T-shirt..  Nice guy.  He and I have had friendly and not so friendly skirmishes here but it always ends up in fun. 

http://people.bakersfield.c...

I don't know the situation with Gary and Teri but I know that even though my kids Dad and I have been divorced for over 30 years, I would be very upset to lose him.  He's my friend and we're lucky to have that kind of relationship.

PossomMomma

Don't feel too bad.  I've made some glaring mistakes about people on the blogs too. 

Paranoia is rampant on blogs because bloggers are allowed to use non de' plumes.  It's easy to assume the worst about someone if you don't know who they really are.

Now "Gary Kozy" is emailing bloggers under other people's handles and email addy's

A serious head impediment