heres a VERY SCARY FACT..The folks downtown have begun a new program where they are trying to keep these unforunate kids in their homes..they do not  want to take them out and set them up in a foster care situation as easily as they used too..they are trying some in house counciling instead...THAT is a huge mistake in my mind...and is only setting the kids up for failure..I mean come on think about it..kind of a no brainer wouldnt you think??

You might say what about the cost of foster care? Well what about the cost of the parents being on assitance because along with a drug habit ...many  have 10 to 12 kids with different baby daddys they allow to run wild in the streets..or what about the cost of housing the kids as adults in the prison system??

The ones already in the system are being near forced to keep ties with these crazy relations by more in depth home visits etc. For the most part these new inventive schemes just seem to add to the kids confusion and denies them a chance at a new life. They get settled in to a normal healthy routine and WHAM they go to a visit and all that old abuse rears its ugly head again..Then the foster parent has to once again pickup the pieces and try to regain ground all over again..

Even supervised visits dont always catch the slight of hand by some of the adults or even siblings they do under the table to try and keep their control over these poor kids..

This thought process  doesnt give a child a proper chance to heal from what they have been taught  earlier in life. I feel if they want to see them they should have the choice ..not be forced..If it is too painful and doesnt happen until after they are 18..so be it..its their liife  no one elses..

alot of them want to move on but are afraid to say anything to SW  etc so they feel forced and suck it up and go....the parents 9 times out of 10 are stuck in the same rut or worse that made them mess the kids up in the first place..we are breeding a monster here and somebody really needs to rethink the game plan cause these kids are our future..

I totally agree SIOUX. 

My sister-in-law takes in foster kids, she usually gets the babies & toddler age kids. You would not believe the horror stories I hear about how these kids ended up in foster care. She has had kids who's moms forced balloons of cocaine down them to get across the border, she has had one who will not talk (he can he just won't) as his mom would duct tape hands, legs & mouth of he and his sibling, put them in a room, close the door and take off to do her "thing". At some point one of the sibs got lose, knocked over the candle she left in the room and started a fire. That these kids even got out is a small miracle. She took one kid for a scheduled visit with mom. When she picked the kid up she noticed he was acting weird so she took him immediately to the emergency room and had him blood tested.....................This CHILD tested positive for cocaine!!!!  MOM had given this kid cocaine during her visit!!! Needless to say the mom will never see this child again, but what will become of the child? No one wants to adopt these kids as they are "damaged goods".  My sister-in-law keeps these kids as long as CPS will let her and they get total love and wonderful care from her. But, then what?

eww Ive got some stories..sent a boy home to reunite after parents passed all the classes drug tests etc....he called at 2am three days later crying because his father had just beat the holy dog Sh** out of his baby sister for having the music up too loud..I'm talkin cops called bloody nose bruises..she was afraid and told the police she fell down during the argument..

through his tears I heard I want to come back POP..30 minutes later I found him hiding in a bush out in McFarland..he never went home again..that's a light story compared to a few more..a child sexually abused by father..father was in prison for raping another girl..he got out and the powers that be were trying to setup a "FAMILY VISIT" OUTRAGEOUS..the list goes on..

Not only do the power people have to keep updated but the foster parents need to be very aware at all times of the child's history down to where grand ma lives and whats her connection with the abusive parents..its family and they will cover if they can get away with it...but ya gotta remember it was granny that raised the screwed up parents..so wheres it stop?

very much part of the Foster parents job to assist the workers if a fact or two falls between the cracks..they have a heavy caseload and unfortunately it happens..

PS if its done right the kids become part of your family too..more so than their natural screw ups,,we have had a dew weddings out back and their kids call us gramma and gramps..helped en through college and on into life..it has its rewards..tell you relative to keep her chin up..for every one that turns out wrong 8 more will turn out right if she keeps passin out the love..even had a bad one come back and apologize once she was grown