http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761 Help me with some perspective.&nbsp; I look at my kids, and they are GOOD kids, with eyes that say, they've never had a darn good whooping like I had when I was kid!&nbsp; I mean with a belt.&nbsp; Your hands on a chair and a good whacking with the belt.&nbsp; &nbsp;The&nbsp;worst thing for them would be a &quot;time out &quot;&nbsp; (i.e. 5yrs = 5mins).&nbsp; Funny, I did something awhile back, &nbsp;I guess it was bad because&nbsp;big pup said I should have a time out.&nbsp; She said she could imagine *me* sitting in a chair, for 40-something plus minutes.&nbsp; We all laughed.&nbsp; &nbsp;Ah, good times, good times. &quot;Time outs&quot;&nbsp;hurt them worse than a spanking.&nbsp; Not saying I haven't given them &quot;swats&quot;, but that was when they were in diapers, they didn't feel it.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; And it was for running in the street or&nbsp;running away in a parking lot...&nbsp;just one good swat.&nbsp; And the firm &quot;NO&quot;. Now they're preteens and punishments take a different turn.&nbsp; It's taking away the things they LOVE, like, free computer time, TV, outtings with friends, or &lt;gasp&gt; their cellphones, if they have 'em.&nbsp; Being a grownup, I look back at my childhood and think what was the worse punishment I had when I WAS A KID.&nbsp; We've all got battle scars from childhood, but was was the worst? I was locked in a closet when I was little, but you know, I don't remember that.&nbsp; I've just been told that, so I can't wear that badge.&nbsp; That was my biomom's way of doing things apparently. But&nbsp;one that stands out in my mind was when I put the leftover peas in the cupboard instead of the fridge.&nbsp; Apparently, they had gone &quot;south&quot;.&nbsp; My step monster made me wash every single dish in the house by hand, beacuse of it.&nbsp; All I could think was what the heck was wrong with her.&nbsp; I made a small mistake and she severly punished me for it.&nbsp; Did I learn my lesson?&nbsp; No, I still make stupid mistakes like that.&nbsp; We all do.&nbsp; And, yeah, life's not fair. And when my kids say&nbsp; &quot;That's not fair!&quot;&nbsp; I tell them, oh did you get the &quot;Life WILL BE fair&quot;, card when you were born?&nbsp;&nbsp; But, they got it easy,&nbsp; and they are REALLY, really good kids.&nbsp; Or, is it just my perspective? I'm trying to think what they'll say was their worst punishment when they were a kid, when their all grownup.&nbsp; But they're not there yet.&nbsp;&nbsp; There's a whole lot of time for more mistakes and lessons to be learned. The punishment has to fit the crime, too..... So what's was your worst? Help me with some perspective.&nbsp; I look at my kids, and they are GOOD kids, with eyes that say, they've never had a darn good whooping like I had when I was kid!&nbsp; I mean with a belt.&nbsp; Your hands on a chair and a good whacking with the belt.&nbsp; &nbsp;The&nbsp;worst thing for them would be a &quot;time out &quot;&nbsp; (i.e. 5yrs = 5mins).&nbsp; Funny, I did something awhile back, &nbsp;I guess it was bad because&nbsp;big pup said I should have a time out.&nbsp; She said she could imagine *me* sitting in a chair, for 40-something plus minutes.&nbsp; We all laughed.&nbsp; &nbsp;Ah, good times, good times. &quot;Time outs&quot;&nbsp;hurt them worse than a spanking.&nbsp; Not saying I haven't given them &quot;swats&quot;, but that was when they were in diapers, they didn't feel it.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp; And it was for running in the street or&nbsp;running away in a parking lot...&nbsp;just one good swat.&nbsp; And the firm &quot;NO&quot;. Now they're preteens and punishments take a different turn.&nbsp; It's taking away the things they LOVE, like, free computer time, TV, outtings with friends, or &lt;gasp&gt; their cellphones, if they have 'em.&nbsp; Being a grownup, I look back at my childhood and think what was the worse punishment I had when I WAS A KID.&nbsp; We've all got battle scars from childhood, but was was the worst? I was locked in a closet when I was little, but you know, I don't remember that.&nbsp; I've just been told that, so I can't wear that badge.&nbsp; That was my biomom's way of doing things apparently. But&nbsp;one that stands out in my mind was when I put the leftover peas in the cupboard instead of the fridge.&nbsp; Apparently, they had gone &quot;south&quot;.&nbsp; My step monster made me wash every single dish in the house by hand, beacuse of it.&nbsp; All I could think was what the heck was wrong with her.&nbsp; I made a small mistake and she severly punished me for it.&nbsp; Did I learn my lesson?&nbsp; No, I still make stupid mistakes like that.&nbsp; We all do.&nbsp; And, yeah, life's not fair. And when my kids say&nbsp; &quot;That's not fair!&quot;&nbsp; I tell them, oh did you get the &quot;Life WILL BE fair&quot;, card when you were born?&nbsp;&nbsp; But, they got it easy,&nbsp; and they are REALLY, really good kids.&nbsp; Or, is it just my perspective? I'm trying to think what they'll say was their worst punishment when they were a kid, when their all grownup.&nbsp; But they're not there yet.&nbsp;&nbsp; There's a whole lot of time for more mistakes and lessons to be learned. The punishment has to fit the crime, too..... So what's was your worst? en-us I just asked my pups what was their worst punishment.&nbsp; They said being grounded.&nbsp; Ahh, the old standard of being grounded.&nbsp; No flights leaving today, you're grounded.&nbsp; And that RARELY happens to them.&nbsp; Then again, they're not teenagers yet.&nbsp; http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104724 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104724 I just asked my pups what was their worst punishment.&nbsp; They said being grounded.&nbsp; Ahh, the old standard of being grounded.&nbsp; No flights leaving today, you're grounded.&nbsp; And that RARELY happens to them.&nbsp; Then again, they're not teenagers yet.&nbsp; <p>When my kids were young, I learned grounding them was punishment to me.  All they did was whine and moan and take their 'groundedness"  out on me.  Much better to confine them to their rooms for a period of time.  At least there, I didn't have to listen to the bad attitude.</p> <p>MY worst punishment was not letting me ride my horse for a determined amount of time.  THAT straightened me up real quick!</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104733 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104733 <p>When my kids were young, I learned grounding them was punishment to me.  All they did was whine and moan and take their 'groundedness"  out on me.  Much better to confine them to their rooms for a period of time.  At least there, I didn't have to listen to the bad attitude.</p> <p>MY worst punishment was not letting me ride my horse for a determined amount of time.  THAT straightened me up real quick!</p> <p>Never really got punished as a kid - usually just a scolding and a &quot;Wait till your father gets home&quot;. My dad was a large man and the thought of getting a spanking from him made my sister &amp; I straighten up. Found out years later that our mom had forbidden our dad from ever spanking us precisely because he was so big!</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104737 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104737 <p>Never really got punished as a kid - usually just a scolding and a &quot;Wait till your father gets home&quot;. My dad was a large man and the thought of getting a spanking from him made my sister &amp; I straighten up. Found out years later that our mom had forbidden our dad from ever spanking us precisely because he was so big!</p> I think I just hated disappointing my mom more than anything. I got spankings (or Whoopings as I like to call them) but I defintely hated to let my mom see me as a less than a stellar person. I always want to impress her. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104739 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104739 I think I just hated disappointing my mom more than anything. I got spankings (or Whoopings as I like to call them) but I defintely hated to let my mom see me as a less than a stellar person. I always want to impress her. Y'know, I don't remember any really bad punishments as a kid.&nbsp; I only got spanked a couple of times.&nbsp; Mostly, my parents sat me down and we talked about what I did, why I did it and why it was bad.&nbsp; On the other hand, most of the times I got busted, I came home bloody or with a broken bone, so spanking didn't seem like the right thing to do. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104741 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104741 Y'know, I don't remember any really bad punishments as a kid.&nbsp; I only got spanked a couple of times.&nbsp; Mostly, my parents sat me down and we talked about what I did, why I did it and why it was bad.&nbsp; On the other hand, most of the times I got busted, I came home bloody or with a broken bone, so spanking didn't seem like the right thing to do. No spankings here either. My dad showed me his belt once, but couldn't follow through since the issue was me not finking on a couple of friends. &nbsp; http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104748 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104748 No spankings here either. My dad showed me his belt once, but couldn't follow through since the issue was me not finking on a couple of friends. &nbsp; Ah, I remember hearing the &quot;Wait til your father comes home&quot; speech and running up to my bedroom and putting 7 or 8 pair of underwear on.&nbsp; &nbsp; http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104753 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104753 Ah, I remember hearing the &quot;Wait til your father comes home&quot; speech and running up to my bedroom and putting 7 or 8 pair of underwear on.&nbsp; &nbsp; When I was a freshman in high school I messed up and got&nbsp;caught lying. Me and&nbsp;2 friends had tickets a few days later to see a &quot;new&quot; comedian, George Carlin, who was doing a stand up show&nbsp;in the gym at Bakersfield College.&nbsp; As my punishment, I had to give my ticket to one of my friend's sister and stay home. (At least I still have the 8-track that he recorded that year, but I don't have anyway of playing it...) http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104810 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104810 When I was a freshman in high school I messed up and got&nbsp;caught lying. Me and&nbsp;2 friends had tickets a few days later to see a &quot;new&quot; comedian, George Carlin, who was doing a stand up show&nbsp;in the gym at Bakersfield College.&nbsp; As my punishment, I had to give my ticket to one of my friend's sister and stay home. (At least I still have the 8-track that he recorded that year, but I don't have anyway of playing it...) I hate grounding my kid (as said by rose) he stays home with me and sometimes makes it worse on me.<br /> <br /> I was beat with a belt when I was bad. I was a horried child, calling my mom the big B and much more. Looking back...&nbsp; Well, I love my parents and they tried. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104876 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104876 I hate grounding my kid (as said by rose) he stays home with me and sometimes makes it worse on me.<br /> <br /> I was beat with a belt when I was bad. I was a horried child, calling my mom the big B and much more. Looking back...&nbsp; Well, I love my parents and they tried. I wasn't punished much when I was a kid, although I do remember once when my siblings got to go over to a friend's house to play and I wasn't allowed to go and had to stay in my room. I don't remember what I did, but I know I missed out on a lot of fun and was mad about it.<br /> <br /> On the other hand, I do remember within the past few months that my mom has figured out a way to get me to do chores. She started by saying that if I didn't do them she'd take away my cell phone. But the thing is that I rarely use my cell phone and am not attached to it, so she scratched that idea. Then she had a better idea. She said if I don't do the chores she'll take my camera away and that was that. She knows how much my camera means to me, so that was a real threat. She has never actually taken my camera away from me, but I don't always do the chores. I can't stand loading and unloading the dishwasher, etc. It bothers me, but she still asks me to do it. This reminds me that I'm supposed to do that today before she gets home from work. I really don't want to do it.<br /> <br /> Are you going to enter any pictures in the fair this year, Woof? http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104933 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_104933 I wasn't punished much when I was a kid, although I do remember once when my siblings got to go over to a friend's house to play and I wasn't allowed to go and had to stay in my room. I don't remember what I did, but I know I missed out on a lot of fun and was mad about it.<br /> <br /> On the other hand, I do remember within the past few months that my mom has figured out a way to get me to do chores. She started by saying that if I didn't do them she'd take away my cell phone. But the thing is that I rarely use my cell phone and am not attached to it, so she scratched that idea. Then she had a better idea. She said if I don't do the chores she'll take my camera away and that was that. She knows how much my camera means to me, so that was a real threat. She has never actually taken my camera away from me, but I don't always do the chores. I can't stand loading and unloading the dishwasher, etc. It bothers me, but she still asks me to do it. This reminds me that I'm supposed to do that today before she gets home from work. I really don't want to do it.<br /> <br /> Are you going to enter any pictures in the fair this year, Woof? <font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">&quot;the ruler&quot;,then the &quot;yardstick&quot; then the &quot;hand&quot; till they all got broken or badly hurt~all the time for what&nbsp;I can not even recall..as a child I was not bad,just handy~as a teenager,lets not discuss that ok?</font> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105072 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105072 <font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">&quot;the ruler&quot;,then the &quot;yardstick&quot; then the &quot;hand&quot; till they all got broken or badly hurt~all the time for what&nbsp;I can not even recall..as a child I was not bad,just handy~as a teenager,lets not discuss that ok?</font> Well put Sage,&nbsp; I too was not a bad kid....just handy.....to mess with....and as a teenager, I left when I was 16.&nbsp; And, I always hated, when meeting new people, talking about my parents or my childhood and never wanted anyone to meet them.&nbsp; http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105096 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105096 Well put Sage,&nbsp; I too was not a bad kid....just handy.....to mess with....and as a teenager, I left when I was 16.&nbsp; And, I always hated, when meeting new people, talking about my parents or my childhood and never wanted anyone to meet them.&nbsp; My mother hit me 29 times on my bare bottom until the paddle broke.&nbsp; My sister counted in the next room. I was about 12 or 13.<br /> <br /> I was supposed to stay home that day, but I went out fishing. My mother thought I was kidnapped or dead and when she found out I wasn't, she decided to teach me a lesson.<br /> <br /> But most of the time, my parents sat me down and told me how disappointed they were in me because I misbehaved. I always cried. And I never won an argument with them on whether I did behave badly. http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105099 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105099 My mother hit me 29 times on my bare bottom until the paddle broke.&nbsp; My sister counted in the next room. I was about 12 or 13.<br /> <br /> I was supposed to stay home that day, but I went out fishing. My mother thought I was kidnapped or dead and when she found out I wasn't, she decided to teach me a lesson.<br /> <br /> But most of the time, my parents sat me down and told me how disappointed they were in me because I misbehaved. I always cried. And I never won an argument with them on whether I did behave badly. <p>Steve, why do they say &quot;tan your hide&quot;, when you end up with a red bottom?</p> <p>My big dog&nbsp;says his mom use to hit him with a flip-flop on occassion, and he deserved every paddling he got...he new when he did something wrong.</p> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105110 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105110 <p>Steve, why do they say &quot;tan your hide&quot;, when you end up with a red bottom?</p> <p>My big dog&nbsp;says his mom use to hit him with a flip-flop on occassion, and he deserved every paddling he got...he new when he did something wrong.</p> <font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">I was outta there at 15~and there are worse tales than mine.But&nbsp;I have to admit I am sad that reason was never the tool of choice,that violence,fear and hate fueled my early life~but then again all of that is how I got here, became me.It always seemed normal till&nbsp;I got around a bit and saw other families,then I tried to make my family try to love me~then I felt sorry for them.I am very grateful my MotherA and I had those last few moments to set things right,mostly for her sake.If we make new mistakes,rather than repeat&nbsp;our parents,we have&quot;done good&quot;.</font> http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105127 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_105127 <font face="Comic Sans MS" size="2">I was outta there at 15~and there are worse tales than mine.But&nbsp;I have to admit I am sad that reason was never the tool of choice,that violence,fear and hate fueled my early life~but then again all of that is how I got here, became me.It always seemed normal till&nbsp;I got around a bit and saw other families,then I tried to make my family try to love me~then I felt sorry for them.I am very grateful my MotherA and I had those last few moments to set things right,mostly for her sake.If we make new mistakes,rather than repeat&nbsp;our parents,we have&quot;done good&quot;.</font> The worst punishment I ever received as kid&nbsp;was being forced to live in this godforsaken bermuda triangle until I learned to like it... http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_111595 http://people.bakersfield.com/home/Blog/woofwoof/10761/#c_111595 The worst punishment I ever received as kid&nbsp;was being forced to live in this godforsaken bermuda triangle until I learned to like it...